They're leaving :(

[Krazymitch]

ok so, at the end of 2008 my bestest friend in the whole world told me she was moving schools, i thought oh yeah kool. ill be good. but when she left i fell to pieces, i came within an inch of death due to self hard, i cried at home, at work, at school, at parties. i jsut couldnt handlle loosing her. i thought everything was going good,

until yesterday, when the two bestestfriends(1 of which was my frist bestfriend in high school) told me they were leaving, once again i thought, oh yeah, kool. ill be fine. But it hit me, and harder then the last time. i know the pain i went thro last time was unbareable for me, and it was unbareable for my friends and family to see...and now, its 10 times worse. i makes me wanna die, i love them so much, they have helped me and been there for me thro everything. and now they are leaving, i know we will promise to stay in touch, but everyone knows that never happens.

i dont want to feel this pain again, it was hard enough for me to deal with, and twice as hard for everyone to see me go thro... i only know one way of dealing with this pain, and thats self harm. and dont say go talk to someone, cause i do. but it doesnt work...i guess im just going to have to bottle it all up, like i usually do. since there is no other way... can someone please help me? tell me some ways you have dealt with looseing someone, i mean, looseing a bestfriend is like my mum dying, thats how much i love them. . . so if you know some good ways of dealing with it,, TELL ME. i dont want to feel this pain again :(:(:(:(:(

[JesssLukeee]

Well, I've lost a friend like that to sort of. My mum and her mum were best friends they had a bit too much to drink one night, the said things they didnt mean, and had a huge falling out (This was about 16months). I know we still could of seen each other but we were so used to our parent just dropping in on each other, we didnt usually do the organising. It got to the point that I hadnt seen her for 9 months. He finally got together and there had been a communication issue and I'd misunderstood her. We were going somewhere my mum didnt want me to go and I got reallly upset and her mum ended up driving me home. We rescheduled it to the next week, and it was like old times nothing had changed it was like it had never happened. We left and promised to do it again sometime. But it has been almost 7 months now. And I miss her like crazy. I have known her since I was in preschool. She is my best friend, not that it seems that way now. The upside is that our mums are becoming friends again. Hopefully things will start to turn out good for me, seeing as I have endured this for so long=]

Now I think you should do what I didn't do. You need to call and keep in touch and organise things with them as often as possible, it will be just like old times I can guarantee=]

Sorry that my post is so long,,

xo

[Lord C]

I've lost friends before, not in the same way as you have and I wasn't affected as badly by it as you have been, but I know this, and it's a fact that will appear at the end of any friendship: You will always make good friends in life.

If you have the personality to become so close to three people like that I can safely say that you have a great ability to make friends because of this.

Don't bottle it up, please. That will make things worse. I lost my Granddad 6 years ago and it was hard but I got through it because I was going through it with other people as well.

Also, you can still see your friends that are leaving if you make an effort which I'm sure you will because it sounds like these people mean a lot to you. You'll be fine, you just have to look to make other friends, arrange meetings with your old friends and keep it together (which I'm you will if you see your old friends :) )

Hope everything is ok :)