Help, please.

[Manar]

Hello everyone. :) I decided to join this site so I can get some help - plus it looks like a fun forum :P - which I'm in desperate need of.

I'm 15 now, going on 16 in about three months. Back when I was 12, I opened images that had gay porn. I thought it was unappealing at first, but then I started to open these sites more often, and now I open them regularly. I've also had sex with a guy a few times.

The thing is, I feel sexually attracted to men and guys more than I feel attracted to women and girls. I look at lesbian porn very rarely and when I do, I feel pleasure, but not as much as gay porn. BUT I have had feelings for two girls before, one of them liked me back, the other didn't. I've never really had feelings for a guy before. Recently, I became friends with a gay guy, and I've sorta started liking him. Although, I'm not sure if it's "I wanna date him" like or "I wanna sleep with him" like.

I've been more confused than ever these days. I don't know what's gonna happen. None of my friends or family know about this. Sometimes, I just wanna be straight. And dating a girl is something that I want. Sometimes, I think I might be bisexual, but that doesn't make it any less confusing.

Does this mean I'll always be attracted to men? Would this disable me from dating a girl?

I really appreciate any help that I get,
Manar

[nick]

We cant tell you who you will feel attracted to or want to date, that's something you need to discover for yourself. Dont feel in any hurry to come to a conclusion, what does it matter? Its pointless just to try to fit yourself neatly into some pidgeon hole, what does that achieve? If you fall for a guy, date him, if its a girl then date her. Thats all there is to it really. Try to stay relaxed about things and just wait for your hormones and your emotions to settle. Be prepared to accept yourself however things turn out, you will still be the same person you always were.

[Mynameisconner]

Yeah, dont complicate things. It could fluctuate as often as you do. Not a bad thing. You dont have to choose between one or the other, and then feel like you lost something. You could experiment dating with both, and if that doesn't help you decide. Dont make a decision just follow your heart.