I really need some help...

[asdfghjkl333]

Alright, so I am in this relationship with a girl that I have had a thing for for a long time. She is crazy about me, she has told me so. Lately, I have been feeling more friendly towards her than boyfriend-ly.

Sometimes I really, like REALLY like her and I am soo happy that we are together, but other times I really wish we were just friends. I have been trying to think about which happens more often, and to me, it seems that it is about the same, or the friendly side is just a little bit ahead. It is hard to explain... She just seems more like a very good friend than a girlfriend.

Also, I REALLY am afraid of hurting her. She was a mess after things with her last boyfriend didn't go so well. She likes me a LOT. I am afraid of hurting her and losing our friendship. Furthermore, I need to sort this out SOON because I don't want to lead her on if things don't work out... that just isn't fair to her.

What do I do? :what:

[Antares]

You cant just lie to her and lead the notion that you love/like her when you really dont.
Its better to just be honest than to lie and basically waste your life being in a relationship that you don't want to be in.

If you really don't want to be in a relationship with her, you need to just tell her that you don't feel that way and that you would rather be friends. She may get really upset but it is most important to communicate why you feel that way and why you are telling her (because you want to be completely honest).

Depending on the person, she could accept it and you guys could have a good friendship but as you already know, it could ruin what you guys have and you may not talk so much. I think that this doesn't matter as much as being true to yourself and just telling her

[aaronbrumbrum22]

yes regulus put it great... you never have to be in a relationship just because you fear of getting out of it. If you don't feel like it is right or you aren't on the same page as she is, then just tell her calmly that you don't feel the same as her

[asdfghjkl333]

Thanks guys. I ended up telling her pretty much the same thing i wrote here.

[nickw_2013]

Thanks guys. I ended up telling her pretty much the same thing i wrote here.

How'd that end up working out?

[asdfghjkl333]

nickw_2013, we ended up breaking up. but that's ok, because we still talk and we plan on being good friends.

[Delusion15]

Well all's well that ends well right