Too late for me?

[Andrew Ryan]

Hi, well anyway I am 17, homeschooled and I don't go out much. Never had a girlfriend before, never really been interested. I am asexual (look that up) and never even had any... how you say "physical contact" with a girl (no kiss, or hug etc.)

Truthfully, I think I am better off. I don't have to worry about making anybody happy or anything like that, by not pursuing females I get a lot of my work done (gonna graduate soon, hopefully.) and I don't have to worry about heartbreak, is anyone else like this? It's really not that bad if you ask me. But am I gonna be messed up later on? Can't think of any major repercussions from being like this. My family is aware that I'm like this, and they don't mind. I do have plenty of Internet friends, so I am not how you say, cut off... from other people. Thanks for the help.

Edit:Did some looking around, Platonic love seems to be what I'm interested in.

[steve1234]

Its never too late! Im 18, and still havent had any relationships or 'physical contact'. Never even held a girls hand, and can't remember the last time I just touched a girls arm (in a friends way, not flirtatious). I do sometimes thing its too late for me, or theres something wrong with me, but i'm starting to try and not let it bother me.

Being single means a lot less worries, like you say. Don't just keep trying to get in a relationship, as you should just wait until it comes to you. You'll know when the time is right.

I'm in a very similar situation to you, but I am not homeschooled, so I am surronded by friends (which include girls) all the time. Being homeschooled, you might not have such good social skills, which might explain your lack of relationships. Maybe you should try and socialise more with both males and females, then you will be more comfortable around girls, which could lead to a relationship. My social skills are dreadful which might explain it why I haven't been in a relationship.

Its not too late for you, so don't say that to yourself! Although most people say their first relationships were around the 16/17 age, there are still quite a few people who don't enter a relationship until their 20s.

Its good that you don't find it a problem, and are just used to it. Because I am always worrying about how 'abnormal' I am.

And by asexual, I assume you mean 'lacking interest/desire for sex' rather than 'Having no evident sex organs'. There are different meanings.

[Jess]

no worries, I'm not so interested in finding a boyfriend either (in RL). my brother is just like you (except not homeschooled). he's interested in other things, not love.