Hard times

[Snow741852]

My grandma is going into surgery tomorrow and she has a very rate thig. A few years ago she had a cancer but it has come back making a tumor and it is very rare and only surgery can fix it. Now they have to take out her left lung along with the tumor thingy. Also my mom wanted to know if it is something that can be passed down and the doctors don't know because it is so rare. During the time my grandma will be in the hospital a couple hours away from her home ny grandpa will be left alone but he has memory loss. You can visit Him and the next say he won't remember. I'm very worried please help me get through this.

[Contra]

The main thing is for you to believe everything is going to be alright. Negative thoughts are prejudicial for you.
Why doesn't your family take care of your grandpa while your grandma is in surgery and during recovery? He could move in to your house for a while, or just keep him closer.

[Aspiringanonymous]

:hug3: My condolences to you during this difficult time. I am here if you need someone to talk to, feel free to send a PM any time.

Just keep in mind that everything you're feeling is natural - and there isn't much you can do in the meantime except to take it slow and see how things play out. Be patient with yourself, and be aware - acknowledge the emotional chaos, but take care not to be overcome by it, as severe worry won't help make the situation any better. Talking it out would help as well, I'm sure the rest of your family would be there to support you and one another.

Hope everything will be okay soon.

[steve1234]

Good luck to your grandma for her surgery. :)

Just stay strong and positive, but also be expected for the worst.

Talking on here is a great thing to do, but its important to talk to your family and that you support each other.

My grandpa died a few years ago unexpectedly, so I never got to say goodbye. A few weeks after that, my grandma suddenly got very bad memory loss, and she has been in a home ever since. I visit her every month or so, but everytime I see her she doesn't know who I am. Sometimes she thinks i'm her son or father! Thats the trouble with caring for someone who is a lot older than you. They are likely to die or get badly ill before you, so its something most people have to go through, so your not alone.

Again, good luck to your grandma :)

[Snow741852]

The main thing is for you to believe everything is going to be alright. Negative thoughts are prejudicial for you.
Why doesn't your family take care of your grandpa while your grandma is in surgery and during recovery? He could move in to your house for a while, or just keep him closer.

I would take him in if he didn't live 4 hours away so other relatives who live nearby will watc him. Also the tumor was so far in that they couldt complete it so they will have to take out the lung tumor and part of the stomach or just wait and see. My dad is driving to the hospital where my grandma is right Noe. He's leavig thi weekend to be with his mom.

[Sachin]

Good luck to you and your grandma.

[Snow741852]

Thank you for your support