Telling my friend I like her.

[steve1234]

I posted a topic about this girl I liked a couple of months back ( http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=72673 ), so I was going to put this there, but I know a lot of you don't like threads being bumped.

Well, I am planning to tell the girl I like, that I like her (who is one of my close friends, although not as close as she is with other male friends). I think I need to do this, because I have liked her for three years now without telling her.
The reason I am not asking her out, is because I don't think I'm ready for a relationship just yet.

So, I am planning to say something like this:

"Ok [insert name here], I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I really like you, and I just thought you should know"

So, does this sound like a good thing to say. Its not going to be exactly that, as planning to say things word for word will not work. Should I say something else?

And, girls, what would you do if one of your close male friends said something like this to you?

Thanks :)

[XomaggsoX]

I think tht is actually good to say.

[aaronbrumbrum22]

it sounds good to me but i am not a girl

[Ghost_Hunter]

Yeah, that would work. I did similar a few months ago with one of my friends who I used to be close to. Things didn't really change for us after, so I wouldn't worry too much about if she's not interested.

[Dog Desab]

i used to say that about my gf before we started dating and now we' re crazy in love

[steve1234]

Thanks for the replies. :)

I would love to ask her out, but in the very unlikely chance of her actually saying yes, I don't think I would be ready for a relationship.

So, if I say i like her (like ive said above), and then she says 'why dont we go out then?' or something, I would not know if I should say yes or no. If I say yes, then i'm not sure it would go well as I am not ready. But, if I said no, she might not think I actually like her that much, and then just go out with someone else, then i will just be annoyed I didn't say yes. So, i'm sort of hoping she doesn't like me back :D

[wavey]

Well if you are close, and she looks at you in a way, no otehr girl does, its a window for you mate.

ask her over your house or take her somewhere quiet, but not in a serious mannorism as if you were asking a question over life or death, casually ask her if she likes you more than a friend, as you do.

If the answer is i dont know, just say something like, "Well, to make your mind up how about we hang on together on (day) at (time) over at (your place, myplace, cinema, mall)

If she says no not really, just say something like, "Im sorry, i still want us to be friends though"

If she says she does like you more than a friend, say something like.. " Glad you feel the same way, (hug her friendly if you feel up to it) (ask her out to your place or to go out one day / night.)

Remember, always take your partners somewhere romantic and quiet, crowds can scare girls, i know from my personal own experiance.

[justalovestruckteen]

no your friendship may not be ruin
but maybe she likes you back

I remember I had a crush on my bestfriend
we knew each other for 7 years
sadly he did'nt like me back
but our friendship stayed the same

but you may never know unless you try...

[CuriousZach]

that'd be fine to say to be honest. its not like you're askin her out so she should be okay. and you never know, she might like you back. just never get your hopes up for anythin, cause then if it happens it feels much better ahaha.

[devilsheep]

Thanks for the replies. :)

I would love to ask her out, but in the very unlikely chance of her actually saying yes, I don't think I would be ready for a relationship.

So, if I say i like her (like ive said above), and then she says 'why dont we go out then?' or something, I would not know if I should say yes or no. If I say yes, then i'm not sure it would go well as I am not ready. But, if I said no, she might not think I actually like her that much, and then just go out with someone else, then i will just be annoyed I didn't say yes. So, i'm sort of hoping she doesn't like me back :D

I'm glad I came across this thread because in a way i'm in the exact same situation, only i think not as far down the road as you are.

*edit* I'm in the same situation because I like this girl right now but I dont really think its developed enough to tell her I like her yet.

I've always had this mentality that im not really ready for a relationship nor do i really want one, but I did just get out of one. I realised after the 10 month relationship i had that it was a mistake because I didn't have the real genuine intention or motive really to actually want to go out with her. She sorta forced the matter and I figured hell i guess she's right (she pretty much tried to convince me that i shouldnt take dating so seriously blah blah) so I ended up asking her out, but my motives were influenced.

Anyways, relating to your problem with not thinking your ready for a relationship, maybe you aren't. On the other hand, you do like this girl and you have for 3 years right? Well at the time I asked this girl out I didn't even know if I liked her I kinda just got too deep into a friends with benfits relationship and I ended it with her but thats when the convincing and influence happened. So since you already know you like her then I don't think it would end the same, so I guess what im trying to say is after you tell her you like her (and i think your line is good) and if she says why don't we date, then I think you should try it.
It could work out well, but it could also not. In the event that it doesn't work out, then try your best to stay commited to friendship if you don't want to ruin that, and just be cool about it admit that it didn't work out as well as you thought and just move on.

Overall my advice is probably just take the opportunity if she says why aren't you dating, if not then just go on living as a friend to her but atleast you got it out to her that you like her for future happenings possibly. Jesus I wrote alot I guess i wanted to get some stuff off my chest aswell but I hope my advice interests you