my fiance and i

[lizzy_200117325]

hes going to be leaving for basic for the gaurd soon and then hell do school and then be deployed..
my mom wants me to wait till im done with college till i get married but i dont wanna...

he doesnt want to wait either.
if i marry him before he is deployed ill get wife benefits..
and he wants me to official be his before he lives.

how can i tell my mother i wanna marry him now

[AutumnDae]

Well, I'm assuming that the marriage age in PA in 18, since you're an adult now. You're mother can't stop you, at least I don't think she can. She may not have your blessing, but if it is what you and your fiance want, then that is what you can do.

Although, I do suggest talking calmly with her about WHY you want to get married before, rather than after, and maybe she will understand.

[dosyedafzal]

Well, I'm assuming that the marriage age in PA in 18, since you're an adult now. You're mother can't stop you, at least I don't think she can. She may not have your blessing, but if it is what you and your fiance want, then that is what you can do.

Although, I do suggest talking calmly with her about WHY you want to get married before, rather than after, and maybe she will understand.

I agree with you

[Jess]

I agree with Autumn, tell her calmly, why you don't want to wait. best of luck :)

[lizzy_200117325]

thanks

[devilsheep]

Are you sure you even want to get married? Seriously your only 18 and getting married now just for wife benefits doesn't really sound like you are getting married for the real reason of it, more so just the financial and government benefits of it. Besides, why get married to a guy that's going away for a long period of time.

Sorry to be so negative but sometimes people get caught up in things like marriage and end up regretting it later in life when a divorce comes around and you're out a bunch of money.