I just did something REALLY stupid

[ray8806]

There is this guy that I know and go to school with. Everyone knows he's gay. Well since I'm a bit curious, I sort of like him. IDK in what way.

Well tonight, he just asked me out. I said yes....without thinking it all the way through. He's a really good friend of mine, and of course I don't want this to get back to my parents. Everyone at school thinks I'm the 'Strong Christian guy'. A label that others placed on me. Well, we start school again in give or take 25 days. I like him, but then again, there could be consequences to me saying yes....though I already have.

I'm writing with a mind all in wack. So if you need more clarification or info, just ask and I'll explain better.

[Deandre]

Hmm what's wrong with that? Not unless you will be doing something that completely crossing the line

[Dog Desab]

okay calm down take a breather and think for a second... now heres a suggestion why dont you just tell him that you dont really want a relationship, your just a bit curious... just tell him how you feel and tell him the situation and you dont want to be called gay or anything like that, he should understand

[ray8806]

Well my parents ARE ubber Christian. If they found out, may God have mercy on my soul.

[Iron Man]

I thought you were going to say that you chopped your own dick off. But seriously, what is wrong with it? Who cares what people think. It only matters what you believe and/or want to do.

[Deandre]

Avoid public places then.

[Harley Quinn]

:arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Dog Desab]

Well my parents ARE ubber Christian. If they found out, may God have mercy on my soul.

i can tell thats why you need to speak to the guy and tell him because he will understand cuz gays are not completely accepted into society and most gay people know that or keep the relationship out of the public eye like celebrities

[nick]

I'm not sure why you would go on a date if you're only curious, it seems as if you are not sure whether you may be gay or bi, or maybe you are more sure than that but hoping it will somehow go away. Sexuality is not really a choice, you have to come to terms with who you are otherwise you will never be happy in life. If that comes as a shock or disappointment to your parents then that's how it has to be. You are the same child they always had before, the child they love, it shouldnt matter.

In your particular situation, if you now think it was a mistake to agree to go out with the guy then just tell him nicely that you have changed your mind. No reason why you cant stay friends without going out together if thats what you want.

[sildavin]

Just sit and have a chat with him, tell him you want to keep the relationship on the down low, and very discreet, he should understand, if he really cares.

[CaliKid24]

well if u care what people think then explain to him and he will understand.

[ray8806]

Okay, well I talked to him about it and just explained that we'd have to wait. He understood completely and just said that "He'd wait on me until I was ready."

He was more understanding that I thought he would be. We're still going to stay good friends, I'm saddened that I did this to him, but satisfied that he understood.

[SneakBrain]

I dont think anything wrong with that, i mean if u have a gay friend and u both go out its like when u go out with ur friend to just hang out its like "guys night"

[Dog Desab]

Okay, well I talked to him about it and just explained that we'd have to wait. He understood completely and just said that "He'd wait on me until I was ready."

He was more understanding that I thought he would be. We're still going to stay good friends, I'm saddened that I did this to him, but satisfied that he understood.

now in the mean time you should come into terms with your sexuality... find out your orientation and if your bi i would keep it as friends, str8 dont do it, gay go for it but come out of the closet itll be easier in the long run

[Dylan303]

If your parents are strong Christians, they must know that forgiving and accepting is the right thing to do, so they probably would be ok with it after a while.

[lamboman43]

If your parents are strong Christians, they must know that forgiving and accepting is the right thing to do, so they probably would be ok with it after a while.

Every strong christian I know would rather die than be "ok" with anyone who is gay.

[Skorupski]

I dont think anything wrong with that, i mean if u have a gay friend and u both go out its like when u go out with ur friend to just hang out its like "guys night"

I agree with the hanging out part. I mean I have a friend who's straight and we hang out basically 24/7 but it's nothing more than friends. It could probably be like that.

[hotandgay]

hey you could have a secret date...i did this all the time with my str8 friends...i would ask them out and do somthing fun...(not the usual romantic stuff)...like
going to the mall
movies is really good...(horror is the best) (its a bit gay but its also being a good friend)
just walking around
go to a fast food restaurant
chill at his house (then you can get romantic with out the publicity)
anything that normal str8 guys would do...

[ShatteredWings]

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