Straight but in love with a guy

[Mattyboy2]

So pretty self-explanatory:
I guess, thinking about it, I do consider myself straight. I've had a semi-serious sexual relationship with a girl which I would like more of.
However I find myself attracted to my best friend, my love for him has been festering for a while and this week I told him I fancied "a guy" to which he flipped out.

So I'm straight, I'm in gay love and he thinks I belong in hell. How do you deal with this kinda thing? It's driving me insane

[Fruit_Tart.]

i think you should talk to him and tell him that there is nothing to worry about. it maybe lying at the moment but tell him that it's not a big deal. yesterday i was soooo close to telling some of my close friends i was bi/gay, but it would risk my relationship with my best friend whom i love. i think that you should try and work out the knots with him and explain that its nothing to be afraid of or anything that you'll be the same good ol' friend to him as you ever were. :D and now you are giving me more courage to tell. :) thanks, and the best of luck to you! ^-^

[Jess]

tell him it's nothing to worry about and that you'll still be the same friend you are to him. good luck

[Fruit_Tart.]

lmao! yeah that^ in shorter terms. ^_^

[Sachin]

Yeah, the whole "tell him your feelings" is great, inexperience counselor-type advice. If I were you, I'd just keep that kinda information to myself. Honestly. Likelihoods are, he's not going to want to be your friend anymore after you drop a bomb on him like that; especially since he flipped out after you told him that you fancied a guy.

[Mynameisconner]

If you dont actually fancy, "a guy". YOur feelings could just be confused. I would probably talk to him about it, and if he didnt want to accept it or if he treated you differntly, I'm not sure how good of a friend he is. I understand you dont want to lose him, but best friends shouldn't seperate because of one's own attractions. That's just my opinion.

[war-fougt-in-a-boy]

omg thats kinda how i feel i was gonna kinda like write a story on it i had a dream about it

[nick]

Can I cut to the point here, you think you love your friend, would you like to do sexual things with him too? If so you may need to rethink whether you are straight or bi. How do you deal with that? Well I've been through the whole thing from trying to believe I was straight to now believing I'm gay and at the end of the day its about not fighting against your own feelings but coming to accept yourself however you are.

Your friend will hopefully come around to accepting that what you said to him has not changed you from the person he always knew. Sometimes that sort of news comes as a shock to a friend and they just need some time to take it in.

[CaliKid24]

alrite is it an emotional or physical love? or both. if physical or both than you really should rethink being straight. and if he cant accept you for who you are then he isnt your real friend. dont lie to yourself. talk to him about it. if he really is a good friend he will still be friends with you. ive had the same thing happen to me.

[Voodoo]

Well, you're young and a lot of sexual things maybe thought, but at the ages 12 - 20 your hormones are going crazy, which can cause you do to sexual things to other males or females. It's normal.

[war-fougt-in-a-boy]

so did you ever tel him it was him

[Mattyboy2]

No but he kinda figured it out...we experimented with each other quite a bit...a bit too far sometimes i think.
Either way i'm over that now, we're still good friends which is good and i'm happy with that which is the most importnat thing