Homoerotic?

[Art_dude]

Hey guys, Never really come around this part of VT, but I thought I'd drop in ask for some advice.

I'm having trouble labeling my sexuality... I consider myself a straight male: I've been emotionally and sexually attracted to women my whole life, but I've also found men to be sexually attractive for a good part of my late childhood and early adolescence. For the most part I figured I was bisexual for a while, but never really felt that label encompassed my feelings considering I didn't feel any emotional desire for men (however at one time I felt a very platonic desire for a relationship with a guy but it was very romanticized and I didn't see it as a typical relationship I would desire with a woman.)

My more current theory is that I'm more like Michelangelo's sexuality which by some was labeled as 'homoerotic,' meaning being sexually attracted to men, but in a more platonic way, such as appreciating the beauty of the male nude and perhaps sexually desiring it, but not necessarily pursuing it. I've always considered myself comfortable about my sexuality and have no qualms about calling a guy sexy for example lol, but now that I'm 17 turning on 18, I am beginning to think this is an aspect of my sexuality and not just teenaged curiosity. Any thoughts are much appreciated :)

[saintweasel]

Before anything, I'd like to say
That's utterly hot. Most dudes are not sexually aroused by sexuality in GENERAL and are simply attracted to displays of sex enacted with the opposite sex...
That is to say girls' sexualities don't limit themselves to only males even if they're straight.

I personally believe many girls feel the same way as you except the other way around, and I for example thoroughly appreciate the female body aesthetically... and I am also able find an especial erotic quality to it at times. I'm pretty sure I'm straight though, and have never felt any emotional connection beyond platonic with any of my girlfriends.

(I wish I could be of more help...
I think it probably takes more exploration to actually find out for sure. So far you seem to have an admirable quality.)

Just keep in mind everyone is a little bit gay. :)

[Art_dude]

haha thanks :)
Yea, this is going to require a little more soul searching on my part, and I don't expect to figure it all out on VT, but in all honesty, just engaging in a dialogue with people is helpful in sorting things out. Your post was in fact just the kind of thing I'm looking for - a positive contribution that gets the conversation going. It's not a direct answer, but it opens up the room for figuring it all out, so for that I thank you :) And yea, everyone is a little gay inside lol XD

Definitely still an open discussion though. I'd appreciate any more feedback if anyone has it.

[confusedboy]

I feel the same way but flipped around. I'm gay, yet at times I find my female friends so attractive. Sometimes I'll get a random feeling to just kiss them. But I'm only emotionally & sexually attracted to males. But then again, it doesn't really condenser with what your saying, I'm not, I guess you could say, heteroerotic.

It almost sounds to me you know exactly what your interests are in the first post, maybe it's just your higher level in grammar.

[thepieman]

I understand what your saying.

Lesbian tennis player Martina Navaratalovia (is that how you spell her name?) was on a UK reality TV show a few years back, and I remember she said to a guy on the show she was able to have a sexual attraction to a guy, but she never felt like she could love a guy in the same way she loved girls. Maybe that's a similar sort of thing to what you feel?

[Teen Music Lover]

I am the same way..
I consider my self straight, thought i was bi, i think that nude men are "art" (for lack of better word) but i would never pursue it. I think that this is, in fact, a really great way of looking at it...
However, i would never call a guy sexy outside of a joke...

[Don3]

I don't know I kinda understand what you mean, I mean personally i'm 13 going to fourteen and I've had my fair amount of tribulations with my sexuality but now idk everything is weird now like i've always wanted to have a six pack and be muscular and what not so every time I see a guy like that i'll think he's cool and kinda get excited but idk if that means i wanna be like him or i wanna be with him i've never really thought about liking a guy emotionally only sexually and not even b/c I'm not really aroused by anal or oral with another guy just if they have a nice body so idk what that means

[Art_dude]

"I feel the same way but flipped around. I'm gay, yet at times I find my female friends so attractive. Sometimes I'll get a random feeling to just kiss them. But I'm only emotionally & sexually attracted to males. But then again, it doesn't really condenser with what your saying, I'm not, I guess you could say, heteroerotic.

It almost sounds to me you know exactly what your interests are in the first post, maybe it's just your higher level in grammar."

Wow, that sounds reallly similar. Good to know someone out there feels the same! I guess homoerotic then is a good start towards labeling. thanks for your help!

I understand what your saying.

Lesbian tennis player Martina Navaratalovia (is that how you spell her name?) was on a UK reality TV show a few years back, and I remember she said to a guy on the show she was able to have a sexual attraction to a guy, but she never felt like she could love a guy in the same way she loved girls. Maybe that's a similar sort of thing to what you feel?

I think that pretty much nailed it alongside what confusedboy wrote. That's exactly how I feel...Thanks!

I am the same way..
I consider my self straight, thought i was bi, i think that nude men are "art" (for lack of better word) but i would never pursue it. I think that this is, in fact, a really great way of looking at it...
However, i would never call a guy sexy outside of a joke...


Thanks! Again, it's good to know there's someone out there that at least feels similarly about this. Once again, thanks to everybody who contributed. Just talking has really cleared up things. I think 'homoerotic' is a good term to describe what I'm feeling. Or basically any term that can describe what you've all said.

[Billy15]

I read on here (very often) how some guys are bi or in your case homoerotic and totally admire a mans body, perhaps could even become involved sexually but that they could never become emotionally involved with a male and that confuses me a lot because if you could go to bed with a man, then why is it not possible to perhaps also love him?

Personally ive never been with either but in my heart I do believe that i am gay and i have this burning desire to (not so much have sex with a boy) but to become emotionally involved, to love him, to be loved and I guess it blows me away that for some sex is alright but the notion of an emotional commitment to the same sex is somehow taboo, a dirty word. I wonder if it were more accepted, if your feelings would be the same? Please dont think that i am knocking you in anyway, im just real confused.

[wtblife]

Not being able to become emotionally involved with a guy confuses me as well, but I think that is just cause I find guys way easier to get along with. Most of my girl friends are soooo hard to help with their problems cause they just don't follow logic >.<

Anyways my situation is more that I love almost everything about guys, but I can only fall for some girls. I love looking at and admiring guys, but I'm also attracted to them. Sorta like Billy, I also mainly just want someone to love.