What do you think?

[bidude94]

Ok so a few friends and I were arguing about this the other day,
Do you think being Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual is a choice or just something you were meant to be from birth? And do you think going through puberty makes you realize your sexuality or do you know before/after puberty?

[Dog Desab]

good question!!!! but ive always liked girls but at 13 yo i thought i was bi. but now i just want girls again... lol so who knows it may be a phase

[Jcat3]

Prob a litle of both

[ray8806]

Personally, I'm not going to answer this question. This is a VERY touchy subject that I am sure will later turn into a flame war between someone and someone else. The reasons behind homosexuality can either be looked upon by religious views, scientific views(Though there is no conclusive evidence to support either accusation yet), or other.

I would be careful to post threads like this one, or to have a debate about it. It can turn south, QUICK.

[DanielJoe]

well i believe there should be no choice... u should be straight! the penis is meant to go inside the vagina, think about it, everyone were lesbian or gay how would the human population survive?

[DanielBoy]

Okay, I know it is not a choice, because of the fact you cannot choose who you will be attracted to. I feel like it is something in your brain that makes you predisposed to either being strait, gay, bi or curious. I feel like the experimenting teens do during puberty is the main way of discovering their sexuality and sexual identity; I say discover because they don't know who they will be attracted to until they give it a chance.

I really don't think it is a choice because I didn't wake up one day and say, hey I want to go out and be attracted to girls and guys, it just was something I discovered when I was 14. I was in no way predisposed to being bi as a child, I was in football for 5 years; I could not have had a more normal start, but when you discover your sexual identity and your sexuality, there is no way to go back and say "Hey, I really don't think I want to like guys, I think I will be 100% strait." I say this because I really was distraught about it, and I had to accept myself for who I am, although I still hide it.

Hope this helps. :)

[Music9]

Well it definitely isn't a choice. I know a few gay or bi people personally who would take being straight any day. While many wouldn't, it's still not a choice.
Just like you can't choose weather you like coke or pepsi better, you can't choose girls or guys or what you like.

Now, WHY is another question.

[Dog Desab]

i think its not a choice because people dont just wake up and decide 'i like guys' your body tells you what you want and what you prefer. i used to think i liked guys but what really wanted was to compare and feel normal about myself. when i finally did compare and j/o with my best friend i thought well its cool that we are close but id rather be around girls and show them my sensuality.... so yeah i think you dont have a choice

[nick]

Its not a choice. For many people it means they will be hated and rejected by their own parents, perhaps picked on an beaten up by their friends, and in some countries even put to death for it. Who in their right mind would choose all of that?

Some people are aware of their sexuality from before puberty and others become aware of it later on when they begin to get more sexual thoughts and to feel sexual attractions. It wasnt something I thought about before puberty.

[NeverTooLate]

I think your born with it, i knew i was gay from a early age...

[vballboy]

Born with! Mostly gays can't explain how they "became" gay or even know when the whole change came about...which I think shows it wasnt a choice, because it happens NATURALLY

[newteen13]

its not a choice, you grow up liking either the same or opposite sex, or sometimes both. It's not something you can choose.

[Wetherbubble]

It's all about the chemical levels in your brain

[Kaius]

Puberty for Boys :arrow2: Teen Sexuality

[confusedboy]

For me, it was from birth. Looking back before I realized that I'm gay, I noticed little signs and such. Now for some it may be a choice, but I believe it's from birth.