I feel bad.

[Paladino]

Ok, so tonight in my house I said to my girlfriend I wish I was still a virgin for 3 reasons that have nothing to do with me breaking my virginity, and she was the one that broke my virginity and took it to heart and she was crying and I explained I never meant it and I am glad I broke it with my her and she forgave me and we both cheered up and I continued to say sorry and we have agreed to forget about it but I still feel bad for saying it.

Also she said to me tonight also that "I am using her for sex" but I dont, I love her so so much and I told her that and she took it back what she said and she said she doesnt think that, but I still think she does, I dont know what to do I feel very bad, I always make fuck ups like the one in the first paragraph and its really getting to me, I love her so so much, but Im afraid if I keep making these fuck ups I will lose her and I really dont want to lose her, she is my first love and if I was to lose her it would kill me, I cant imagine myself with anyone else but her, I want to get married, have kids and spend the rest of my life with her.

Has anyone got any advice they could give me for this please? I really dont want to lose her.

[clr9823]

Well, it sounds like you really have something special if these fuck-ups keep occurring and you manage to sort them like adults.
Nobody even comes close to being perfect, and no doubt you will make more mistakes. However, because you have dealt with the previous ones so well, I am sure any future ones will be dealt with similarly. If you really are worried about it though, I suggest you talk to her about it so she understands how you feel and that you can occasionally mis-phrase things; this might make any future mistakes even easier to deal with.

Hope that helps.

[Paladino]

Thanks, I really appreciate it. And yeah we do have something special I love her more than anything in this world, once again thanks.

[Scarface]

People make mistakes, and say things that they don't mean to say. Of course there will be small arguments or misunderstandings, but in a relationship you can't dwell on them. When you say you're sorry (Mutually) you move on and you make sure that it doesn't happen again. I have said somethings I remember today with my ex that I regret saying, but I was with him for 3 1/2 years. A relationship is a good learning experience. Each mistake made should be learned from and to make sure it doesn't happen again.

If I were you I would move on and forget it as if it didn't even happen. If she decides to bring it up again, then discuss it with her civilly and vow to never say anything like that again. I think every thing is going to be okay. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here VM/PM me anytime.

[Paladino]

Thanks Ronnie, I will do. 3 1/2 years, wow.

[Scarface]

3 1/2 monogamous years. Always here to help. I wish you the best of luck man :cool:

[hrecknoall]

well if she loves you she even loves your little fuck-ups. I think it's really great that you two act so mature and can talk stuff out, congrats on that!
As far as advice, I really don't have any. Any relationship is gonna have fights over slip ups and misunderstandings. Just keep working at 'em like adults