jealous

[xgeekyrocksx]

Recently my friend started cutting. I mean really recently, like a week ago. I love her and all, but i wis i could get throuigh to her and make her understand that she doesn't need to cut. Whenever i say anything along them lines she goes "well, you cut" and it goes back to the start with me telling her that i can't really stop (although i do try) but that she CAN.
And yeah, i'm jealous of her and the way she doesnt NEED to cut and how she can just stop, just like that. I'm also annoyed at how in such a short space of time she has managed to tell far more people than i have. It makes me think that theres something wrong with me lol...
but yeah, she's been trying to get me to tell a girl i'm not really close to about the cutting because she's her friend and shes "feeling left out"
is it all a game to her??!!

im sorry about this thread.. its kinda angry xx :)

[Kaius]

There are many reasons why people cut and self harm, and tbh its not up to other people to say whether they need to or not. I know cutting isn't something that's endorsed but some people can't help it. Though, by what you've said are you sure she really is cutting, and it's not a cry for attention?

[NightFighter]

Recently my friend started cutting. I mean really recently, like a week ago. I love her and all, but i wis i could get throuigh to her and make her understand that she doesn't need to cut. Whenever i say anything along them lines she goes "well, you cut" and it goes back to the start with me telling her that i can't really stop (although i do try) but that she CAN.And yeah, i'm jealous of her and the way she doesnt NEED to cut and how she can just stop, just like that.

This may be the opportunity for you both to quit together. Although she may not be addicted yet, she doesn't want to stop so you have to help her and she needs to help you. She can be your motivation to stop. And honestly, you can't always use the addiction as an excuse not to quit. Just because you are addicted doesn't mean you always will be. You can take control and quit the addiction. It's a lot easier to do it together, with a friend, than alone.

I'm also annoyed at how in such a short space of time she has managed to tell far more people than i have. It makes me think that theres something wrong with me lol...

That might mean that she just wants the attention she gains from doing it. However, it's still not natural, normal human behaviour so try not to get angry at her. If she feels she needs to self harm in order to get attention then something must be wrong.
I wouldn't be jealous of her either. Self injury is a sensitive topic and really the only people who need to know about a person doing it is the ones closest to the person. You wouldn't broadcast personal details about yourself to just anyone, would you?

but yeah, she's been trying to get me to tell a girl i'm not really close to about the cutting because she's her friend and shes "feeling left out"
is it all a game to her??!!

Don't tell anyone you're not close to or trust. That's a serious no no!
Explain to your friend that the topic is very sensitive and secretive to you and you only tell people who mean a great deal to you. She has to respect that.

im sorry about this thread.. its kinda angry xx :)


Haha if it helped you by writing it then there is absolutely no need to apologise. You have a reason to be angry. I'd be angry too.

I hope i helped. Even just a smidget :P

Take care
x

[xgeekyrocksx]

thanks what both of you said helped loads.. and i dont think im as angry anymore.
still a bit upset about it.. but not angry :)
so yeah, thanks, you made me realise i was being out of order xxx