Can this EVER be someone's fault.

[ShatteredWings]

Can any sort of sexual harassment/molestation be the victims fault.

Even if the abuser is younger.

Even if the victim was/is bigger and stronger.

I should delete the posts I've made on abuse, it's not worth bothering.
but i haven't.
yet.
whatever.

[Iron Man]

I don`t think so. The victim didn`t ask to be violated, but failed to defend themselves. If they wanted it, It wouldn`t be rape, unless the person molesting was over 18 and the vic was under 18. Not saying that adults can`t be raped.

[Sith Lord 13]

Short answer: No.

Long answer: Hell no.

Molestation and harassment are by definition unwanted. There is no way it could ever be the victim's fault.

[ShatteredWings]

I was 14
He was fucking 12.

Everyone blamed me for it - i had to APOLOGIZE to him for being rude. Even though everyone saw what he did.

No one in their right mind would call it rape.
But it put me off considering dating boys for awhile
Which is fucking pathetic when you think about it.
Nearly two years later, and only now am I even starting to acknowledge it.

just... i fell like cause i'm so much bigger (dude, i'm huge) and older... i should have been able to stop it.

[1_21Guns]

People can be very manipulative.
Age is just a number, the other guy clearly wasn't right to even consider it.
And in no way in hell, is that your fault.

[Jess]

no way is it your fault. I don't think it's ever the victim's fault

[ShatteredWings]

thanks.

[BeautifulDisaster]

I've been molested & sexually assaulted/harassed by family members & others who were younger than me, that does not mean it is your fault because you're older. At all.
It makes it a lot more complicated due to questioning if it was your fault because you're older & thinking you could have done something etc, but it does not make it your fault. AT ALL.

*holds*

I promise.

If you ever want to talk, I'm here love.
x

[sarah newman]

Just because he was 12, doesnt mean its your fault.
he shouldnt even be thinking about you in that way.
So what, your 14, like 1_21 guns said, age is just a number, it dont mean anything.
You should of never apologised.
Its fucking disgusting.
Im always here 4 youu xx

[TheSnowCat]

That's terrible! Of course it wasn't your fault! You didn't ask to be abused like that & age or size doesn't matter!

[enjoying_my_insanity]

it is definatly not your fault! were all here for you if you need to talk about it *hugs you*

[INFERNO]

Absolutely not. It doesn't matter if you were bigger, stronger, drunken, retarded, smaller, paralyzed and whatever else. The fault of it rests upon the offender. If you had a good relationship beforehand, you two may have done/said things regarding to sex but the fact that the offender did the acts are their fault. Even if you were doing/saying things regarding to sex, you're not to blame for the incident taking place nor are you to blame for the acts causing the incident to occur. Those are both intentional acts the offender did to you and they should apologize, never the victim.