How to not care about my sexuality?

[kevin14]

Hey, I made a thread a while back about how to turn straight is the name of it. I don't know if I'm straight or gay or bi so, I tested it out and looked at some gay porn pictures and pics of girls with big booty and boobs. I got no erection off the girl porn but, when I looked at the gay porn I got no erection. I think I may be Asexual a person who isn't attracted to either sex. I'm guessing these are just the hormones and I haven't jerked off in about 2 weeks so I'm guessing I'll find out when i'm older but, how do I not care about my sexuality I don't want to care about it since it's just depressing to think I may be gay when I grow up so how do I not care about it at all. Also judging from my story do you think I'm straight, curious, bi, or gay? I need a answer badly. Thank you. I think I'm one of those guys that needs to know a girl in order to get turned on by her. I think I'm not ready for sex and all that stuff so could you give me some help everyone.

[Scarface]

Well I personally cannot tell you what your orientation is. Though through growing up and different changes in your body and your hormones will also change a long with it. It's not that you shouldn't necessary not care about your orientation, but I would put it to the back of my mind until I found out my orientation through experiences. I wouldn't start labeling yourself yet.

Everyone discovers their preferences at a different age, maybe you just have to wait longer. Don't get depressed over it you will find yourself as you go through life.

If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here PM me anytime.

[zander]

yeah for me i have always liked guys better,

[Aspiringanonymous]

This is a good question, and personally, one which this place doesn't quite see enough of. I personally could care less about mine, the entire concept of sex and sexuality makes no sense to me whatsoever anyway. The fact that it all seemed so absurd used to trouble me a lot (since, if sex is fundamental to human existence, how could one still be human if one sees it all as an unnecessary chaos?) - until one day I just decided to screw trying to understand and be content with the way things were. Not everything is meant to become clear, and that's okay.

Uncertainty is difficult to accept, because it implies that anything can be possible, including outcomes too unsettling to think about. I often ask myself, so what if the worst happens? Life is just an experience, a journey with no definitive destination, and every path is equally valuable - whether or not it is compatible, whether or not one perceives it to be worthwhile. In the end, it really doesn't matter, and if sexuality is predetermined, then why worry at all? It won't change anything. If becoming something you can't accept right now is inevitable, then why not just leave it and enjoy the moment while it lasts? You will be ready to accept at some point, but there's no rush.

Don't try to label or judge yourself in any way right now - confusion only begets more confusion. So how does one accept the fact and learn to live with it until clarity is found naturally? There's no trick, really, it's about making the rational resolve to divert your focus and stick to it. Every time you find yourself returning into that mental muck and getting nowhere in particular, recognize it and consciously shift away again. Persist through enough times, and sooner or later it will feel natural to do so.