I'm in a bad situation....

[Kait]

Okay, so earlier I was on this chat site and I got to talking to this guy. He's 19, well I'm only 14 and we were just messing around flirting back and forth and stuff like that, and then he asked me if I could get on MSN and video chat with him and I said yes so we started video chatting and we were just talking and stuff and then it starts getting sexual.
We both start getting horny and he starts telling me that I'm beautiful and how I'm making him so hard and all of that and then, he asks me if I wanna see his dick. I say no at first and then we start getting more and more serious. He asks me to show him my boobs and so I did and then he asked if I wanted to see his dick and I said sure so he pulls out his dick and he starts jacking off, and then he persuades me to show him my vagina.
Finally after like an hour he cums and he says that he'll be right back... his MSN logs off and I wait for 45 mins and he never logs back on...
So now I'm worried that I've done something wrong... Because I know that its illegal for us to like have actual sex or anything because I'm still a minor... but does this count as sex??? If it does then I just lost my virginity.
These may seem like stupid questions... but I'm really worried... please someone answer and tell me if I'm just being stupid. Also, will someone tell me if he was just playing me.

Thanks so much,
Kait



If someone could please answer my questions I would be very much thankful. I really need advice!!

[Scarface]

Sadly enough.. I would have to say that you were "Played" by him. I think this is a situation where he wanted to get himself off and then leave. Of course I maybe thinking the worst possible situation, but I could be right.

To answer the question about you losing your virginity, the answer to that is no. In order to lose your virginity you have to have sexual intercourse which would mean he would have had to be in person and well, having sex. The is however a form of "Cyber-sex) where you perform sexual acts over the internet which I strongly don't condone. As it is dangerous and as you said he was a lot older than you.

You didn't do anything wrong. I just wouldn't do it again as it's very dangerous. I really hope you don't take this situation with this guy (As in a relationship standpoint) seriously especially when he is quite a lot older than you and it he seemed to have ditched you in my opinion.

I really hope this helps. If you need someone to talk to I'm always here VM me anytime.

[Daniel_]

Yeah Goose is right.

Just don't do it again and you should be fine, but if I were you I'd be worried about weather or not he recorded it...

Anyway, I doubt he did, so just stay away from stuff like that. Never do it again, and as for your virginity, no you did not.

Lastly, I don't think you can get in trouble for what you did, but he can. Hes 19, your a minor, he can be arrested for a number of things, weather that be a sexual predator, internet predator and more.

[ForgetMeNot]

You have no need to worry as said above you need to have (physical) intercourse to loose your virginity, and I suggest you don't do that again especially with some guy you don't know. What you should be thinking about is if he recorded it or not, but like others I seriously doubt it. This should be a learning experience, you've tried it once and it's best not to do it again, far worse can come from these situations.

[kendre010]

Well, I've done the same thing as you have, but instead of them saying I'll be back and never contact me again, I'm the one who never contacts them back again, becuase it would just be awkward. You have not lost your virginity, becuase to do that you have the have anal/vaginal intercourse. Ya, just be carefull who you are with when you do that, becuase it could get out and you would be famous in a way oyu don't want. hey if you want to talk more about it you think maybe you could add me?