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ErykaInspire.
July 1st, 2010, 10:22 AM
Two days ago was the ten-year anniversary of my little brothers death.

June 8th, 2000, I was blessed with the most beautiful baby brother that I've ever laid eyes on. He was born four months early and couldn't survive without dialysis and life support. I was only seven years old, but I remember that day perfectly...


It's 9:00am and my dad is rushing my brother and I out the door. A million questions are rushing through my head, one new question after another- constantly. I try asking daddy what's wrong but all he replies with is "Put your seat belt on" or "Eryka, Please. Not now".
So I sit back in my seat and watch as my town fades away, the highway flies by, and the hospital comes into view. A two hour car ride never felt like a few seconds. Dad must have been speeding.
I look over and I can hear my brothers music from his CD player, blaring. He's been distant with me since Riley was born. I reach over to touch his hand but he jerks away from me, Practically laying on the door.
When we get to the hospital, daddy lets me push the elevator button. F5- Maternity on the left.
Walking down the isles of babies, I know exactly what one is my brother. The glass box and machines surrounding it, makes it pretty easy to find.

All I can remember is pressing my hands to the glass and wishing with all my heart to just feel his skin..

His mouth is scarred from all the tape, and there's wounds on his stomach from all the needles and tubes. A baby so precious shouldn't have to be treated like this.

I was angry.

I started screaming at the nurse: "STOP HURTING HIM! THAT'S MY BROTHER! CAN'T YOU SEE WHAT YOU'RE DOING!? LOOK AT HIM!!"

My dad put a hand on my shoulder and explained that my baby brother was very sick. And at that moment, Riley opened his eyes and looked right at me.
I'll never forget that smile.. Like a black hole.. Full of joy, but no hope. Full of life, but no longer living.

Moments later, he reached his hand towards the glass.. as if reaching for me, smiled again, and fell back asleep.


Then the heart monitor gave off one.. long. beep.
*Beep. Beep. Beep... Beep.... Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep...*

Riley Davan Nolan;
June 8th, 2000- June 29th, 2000.

Riley Davan Nolan, Your three weeks of life have had the most impact on me than my whole seventeen years of self-preservation. I'll never forget your smile. It's what's keeping me alive to this day. When I can't fight, I reach back to you and remember that you never gave up. I'll reach out to you until I can take your hand in mine.. like when you were reaching out for me.

I may not have been able to save you, but I'm living for you. And You're living through me.

I love you.

Bougainvillea
July 1st, 2010, 09:38 PM
I'm very sorry Eryka.
Though I never talk about her, my sister died of SIDS. So, I know how you feel. It's a hard thing to go through. Knowing that someone who could've made such an influence in your life died. I feel wronged when I think about it. An infant? It's unfair. Because they never got a chance.

I'm there with you Eryka, feeling your pain. We're all here for you.

simpleasthat
July 2nd, 2010, 04:34 AM
My Mother has had 6 still births, 3 between me and my older brother, 2 of them being twins. You are not alone.

Jess
July 2nd, 2010, 01:09 PM
This is very touching, I'm sorry about your little brother *hugs*

Magus
July 2nd, 2010, 01:13 PM
I am sorry to hear this unfortunate event. My condolences.

Filipe
July 11th, 2010, 05:16 PM
Q.Q

That must've have been horrible...

But he's still alive in your memory... If you make something out of yourself... He will never be forgotten...

That's my way of thinking since i lost gramps...

I miss you grampa :,( :,( :,(

sarah newman
July 14th, 2010, 12:11 PM
im so sorry xx

im always here if u need 2 talk xx

he will always be in your heart and memory xx <3

* huggs * xx

Scarface
July 14th, 2010, 12:25 PM
Wow, that is quite the story. It's story's like this that are motivational to help you carry on. No matte hoe bad things get. No matter how sad one maybe, you think about those who have it so much worse. Your story touches my heart and my thoughts go out to you for such an unfortunate and traumatizing event. I'm very sorry. He will always be with you. Carry him with you as you have with positivity. :hug: