Ghost_Hunter
June 30th, 2010, 12:01 AM
I'm entering my senior year of high school in September and I've still never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl, or even held a girl's hand for that matter. I've asked out girls before(6 to be exact) but somehow always end up getting rejected no matter how much I feel I've improved since the last mistake I made in asking someone out.
The last girl I asked out I truely felt would say yes but things just ended up getting weird and I was essentially rejected. I met this girl in winter track and started talking to her around December. We became pretty decent friends by the end of the season and I developed a crush on her around February. I ended up asking her to my junior prom and she said yes but a few weeks later told me she couldn't go because her parents didn't want her to since she was a freshman and they didn't want to get her a new dress(I feel this may have been a lie though because I noticed she got a boyfriend the same day, that relationship only lasted a week though). We got closer and by the time spring rolled around I wanted to ask her out but didn't want to rush it. I bought her a birthday present and it completely surprised her and she was really happy about it(it was a book that I had read and she said she would read it one day) but I don't know if she ever read it or if she liked it after unwrapping it. She was extremely surprised and hugged me twice when I gave it to her though. We had a weird miscommunication where I thought she was mad at me and when I apologized I ended up telling her that I liked her. After explaining to me that she was never mad, she also told me that she didn't want to lead me on because she didn't want a boyfriend at the moment but she liked talking to me. I said I was fine being just friends for the moment and asked if she did want a boyfriend would I have a chance and she basicly said yes which put me in a good mood about the future. I became at ease with her since I knew she was aware of my crush. I still became doubtful at times about it at times, like when we would make plans to hang out and she couldn't because it was Mother's Day or she was sick. Or times when she couldn't even make plans to hang out with me because she had other plans or work. I ended up just messaging her on Facebook asking her out(I had a completely different, and according to my friend that I asked, a really cute idea for how I was going to ask her out) and she replied telling me that it was the sweetest thing she's ever read and that it made her smile but she's not over an ex boyfriend and doesn't think it would be fair to date me until she got over that. The next week I found out she was "seeing" a different guy, one she never dated. I kind of flipped out on her for that and we stopped talking. I started writing an apology because I felt I over-reacted(even though I also felt she should have told me since she knew I cared about her) but stopped writing it when I saw she officially was in a relationship with the new guy. I haven't talked to her since and have lost her both as a firend and as the girl who I believed would be my first girlfriend. And just for clarification this all took place from December(meeting her) to June(her getting a boyfriend/our friendship ending).
Is there anything I can do to improve if I ask out another girl anytime soon? I'm honestly really tired of getting rejected and sometimes I want to just give up because it's really frustrating. And is there anything I can do about this girl? I want her back as a friend but the last time I tried apologizing(pretty soon after flipping out on her) she didn't listen.
The last girl I asked out I truely felt would say yes but things just ended up getting weird and I was essentially rejected. I met this girl in winter track and started talking to her around December. We became pretty decent friends by the end of the season and I developed a crush on her around February. I ended up asking her to my junior prom and she said yes but a few weeks later told me she couldn't go because her parents didn't want her to since she was a freshman and they didn't want to get her a new dress(I feel this may have been a lie though because I noticed she got a boyfriend the same day, that relationship only lasted a week though). We got closer and by the time spring rolled around I wanted to ask her out but didn't want to rush it. I bought her a birthday present and it completely surprised her and she was really happy about it(it was a book that I had read and she said she would read it one day) but I don't know if she ever read it or if she liked it after unwrapping it. She was extremely surprised and hugged me twice when I gave it to her though. We had a weird miscommunication where I thought she was mad at me and when I apologized I ended up telling her that I liked her. After explaining to me that she was never mad, she also told me that she didn't want to lead me on because she didn't want a boyfriend at the moment but she liked talking to me. I said I was fine being just friends for the moment and asked if she did want a boyfriend would I have a chance and she basicly said yes which put me in a good mood about the future. I became at ease with her since I knew she was aware of my crush. I still became doubtful at times about it at times, like when we would make plans to hang out and she couldn't because it was Mother's Day or she was sick. Or times when she couldn't even make plans to hang out with me because she had other plans or work. I ended up just messaging her on Facebook asking her out(I had a completely different, and according to my friend that I asked, a really cute idea for how I was going to ask her out) and she replied telling me that it was the sweetest thing she's ever read and that it made her smile but she's not over an ex boyfriend and doesn't think it would be fair to date me until she got over that. The next week I found out she was "seeing" a different guy, one she never dated. I kind of flipped out on her for that and we stopped talking. I started writing an apology because I felt I over-reacted(even though I also felt she should have told me since she knew I cared about her) but stopped writing it when I saw she officially was in a relationship with the new guy. I haven't talked to her since and have lost her both as a firend and as the girl who I believed would be my first girlfriend. And just for clarification this all took place from December(meeting her) to June(her getting a boyfriend/our friendship ending).
Is there anything I can do to improve if I ask out another girl anytime soon? I'm honestly really tired of getting rejected and sometimes I want to just give up because it's really frustrating. And is there anything I can do about this girl? I want her back as a friend but the last time I tried apologizing(pretty soon after flipping out on her) she didn't listen.