Getting help, without parents knowledge?

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How can you talk to someone without them telling your parents? Is this possible? Thanks.

[Missing]

You can always try your school councilor, but personally my councilor over reacted and threatened to call my parents. It depends on how close you are.

Maybe siblings? friends? or this forum.

[Aspiringanonymous]

I'm assuming you're asking about professional help of some sort - that really depends on who you speak to and the policies governing this matter in your local area. Over here, anyone over 13 can speak to a school counsellor without parent permission, but of course if they determine that you pose a danger to yourself in any way, they have a right to contact your parents regardless of whether or not you agree.

On the other hand, when I started seeing a therapist, everything including self-harm was kept strictly confidential - except that parent permission was necessary to see them in the first place. That might have not been the case if I was slightly older, but I'm not sure.

Why not ask someone to confirm, first? School consellors are a great place to start, as they should be reasonably familiar with these policies. You don't have to reveal anything about yourself or the real reason behind asking if it isn't convenient to do so.

Best of luck to you. :hug3:

[nick]

Hi Hannah. I live in the UK and my sister had some counselling recently for OCD and self harm. In the first case she spoke to our GP and he referred her on to our local adolescent help centre. Our parents had to be notified of the referral and also had to attend a session with the counsellor and then to agree the proposed plan of therapy.

[georgiamay]

mmm... personally if you really don't want your parents to know, i wouldn't go to the school for help. my friend told the school cousellor about my self harm, and she HAD to tell my parents by law. i can see why, because i'm sorry, but what if you cut too deep and kill yourself by accident? so the school would tell your parents if you live in the UK.

maybe going to your GP? i know they are completely confidential, unless they think your suicidal. if you're not, and its just the SH you want help for, i'm sure they'll help you.

keep posting on this forum about it aswell, and dont forget everyone is here to help.

good luck :) x

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Thankyou everyone for your replies.

Sorry yeah i should of said i did mean prefessional help. Sorry. Thanks Maya thats a good idea, i will ask if they have to tell my parents before i tell them, of that makes sense. I guess i know if they think im in danger they have to tell my parents, but im not and im not sure they would understand that.

Thanyou Nick, i guess if they think its 'bad' they have to tell my parents :/ argh this sucks!

Yeah i suppose thay are supposed to tell your parents, i hate laws. It would tear my mum apart if she knew. But im not going to do that :( i get what you mean though i guess they have to protect themselves but arent they supposed to protect their students? Telling my mum wouldnt protect me :( im fed up with this i just want to stop and i dont know what else to do. Im sorry your parents found out, unless you wanted them to. Sorry. Yeah a GP sounds good, a lot of people have said they cant tell but im still worried my mum will find out, its sounds really stupid and i know its worng but it seems easier and safer to tell the school that a GP. I dont know! Thankyou, i will :) i know thanks xxx

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Well, if it was someone professional (counselor, teacher, etc) and you asked for it to be confidential then I think they'd respect that.
I'm not sure if you have one but where I live there is like a Youth Center and they have free 'psychologists' that people can see on their own - it's similar to the place people would go for like free birth control and shit.
It is completely confidential and they have a phone option too so you can call rather than go in.
I'm sure you could also find other help lines to call.
However, I suggest that whatever you do you talk to an adult rather than a friend.. my friends try to talk to me about it but they don't get it and in my opinion it makes things worse rather than better.

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Sorry for taking ages to reply. But thankyou gor replying ^^ i do have a place like that, thats a good idea thankyou i shall try there :) Hmm my friends are like that too :/ thankyou very much :)

[crims0nbl00d]

yes, I started a way for girls to come get help with out there parents or anyone knowing the link is in my signature.

we will be glad to help you!