Baits
June 28th, 2010, 06:58 PM
First off, this is kinda awkward, and I suppose slightly pathetic considering I'm 19 and posting here, but everyone seems really helpful and nice so I guess it doesn't really matter. Now...on to the situation.
I've known this girl since November last year, we both worked at Sears during the holidays and that's how we met. She's 16, and I was 18 when we met, 19 now though. We've become really close friends since then. We hang out almost every day and we get along great. A couple weeks after we met and talked we started holding hands and eventually started kissing...at least up until January. She called of my friends up crying and saying she doesn't know if she can date me because she's afraid she's going to hurt me in some way. My friend talked to her and told her that she needed to talk to me about it, not him, so she called me and we talked about it. She told me what she told my friend, and also said that she's just not sure if she's ready to be in a serious relationship since she's still in high school, and I'll be going into nursing school in August. She told me she would want to make a relationship between us work out, and with high school she's just not sure if she'd be able to. So I told her that's fine, and we can still be friends and hang out, and we did. We eventually ended up making out a few times after January too. We would make out one day, then not do anything for a few days/weeks, then we'd be at it again.
Up until about two months ago I was a virgin. My parents went out of town for vacation and I stayed home to watch my dogs. I invited her over. She knew I was a virgin, she wasn't one however, and she had told me before that if I lost my virginity to anyone it would probably be her because she didn't want me to have sex with a girl who was just going to eventually break up with me and never talk to me again. We watched a few movies during the day, and then when it started to get dark we began to make out and eventually we bumped uglies. The next day we hung out again, my parents were still out of town and she wanted to hang out at my house, so we did. I tried to cuddle up with her on the couch but she didn't really want to. I asked her if anything was wrong, and she told me some days she just hates to be held and she gets (I guess the best word to describe it is) claustrophobic when people do. I figured it was true because when I hugged her earlier in the day she didn't want it to last very long.
Well around May 3rd one of her old friends from another county began talking to her again after a year of silence. She had known him for about 3 years before she moved to my county. The reason they didn't talk for a year is because right before she moved, the guy confessed his love to her and she told him she'd wait for him. She moved, and ended up dating someone. The guy found out, it pissed him off, and he didn't talk to her for a year. They're now dating. He's 21, and lives almost a 50 minute to hour long drive away. He goes to college and has a job so he never gets to see her except for the weekends.
She spent the night at my house on Saturday. We were watching a movie, and had a little 11oz. bottle of Smirnoff Ice, we decided to just split it between us so it wouldn't go to waste. Neither of us get drunk or buzzed easily, so we weren't drunk or buzzing after drinking it. We had been cuddled up on the couch during the majority of the movie, and towards the end she laid her head against my chest and looked up at me. She's done it before, I knew she wanted me to kiss her. I was very hesitant about kissing her because I knew she was dating someone. I kind of just smiled at her, and then she just pulled my head down and we started making out. I didn't really think to stop it or anything, I guess I was kinda caught up in the moment because I'm still very attracted to her. We then got off the couch and went into my room, laid on my bed and kept making out. She started dry humping/grinding on me like crazy and told me I make it hard for her to not make out, and not have sex. We kinda had a break during the "makeout session" and I asked her about the guy she was dating and she told me that he's become an ass ever since they actually made it "official" that they were dating. He called her and yelled at her because she talked to some other guy at her school about God and The Bible. She also told me that he's too clingy, and tries to limit my time with her. I told her I saw one of the comments he left on her Facebook, he said "we'll get married one day." in French. I told her he seems delusional, and she said she kind of agrees. We then went back to making out...
Alright, we didn't just make out, she started rubbing and jerking on my buddy (yeah you know what I'm talking about, I'm trying to not make this dirty lol.) I told her she's being a tease, then I started teasing her and I started to finger her. She told me it felt amazing, and so I continued. She told me that she wanted me bad, but said she was afraid my parents might wake up and walk in on us. I told her that they're downstairs more than likely passed out from drinking too much. I kept teasing her, and then she told me if I didn't stop teasing her so good she was just going to make me "stick it in" anyway. I asked if she really wanted me to, and she said yeah, so I did. I didn't have a condom on (idiotic, I know, I snapped to my senses about 10 seconds later and pulled it out. That's not the reason I made this thread though.) We didn't really do much after that. We made out a bit more, and then eventually went to sleep.
Alright, now that you know my story, I'll ask my question(s) I suppose. I've been wanting to date her ever since I met her, but we never actually have. She's told me on multiple occassions that she still likes me, and would still date me. I haven't tried to date another girl ever since I met her. Now she's dating a 21 year old guy, who used to be her best friend in another county, and it makes me feel like I'm not going to get a chance to be with her now for some reason.
Am I an idiot for trying to get with her for so long?
Am I an idiot for giving in and doing what I did the other night with her?
Do you think she really does like me still, and that's why she did what she did the other night?
Should I try talking to her about the other night? Ask her if she thought it was a mistake or if she regretted it? (Also, a little story to go along with this question. I dropped her off at a friend's house the day after, and while we were inside, she told her friend, "I didn't really sleep too good last night." and then she looked at me and kinda smiled. So, I guess maybe she didn't regret it too much?)
Should I even keep trying?
I know this post is more of a story than an actual question, and I'm sorry for it being so long, but advice or anything would be awesome. :) If I think of any other questions, or any other details I'll update this post!
I've known this girl since November last year, we both worked at Sears during the holidays and that's how we met. She's 16, and I was 18 when we met, 19 now though. We've become really close friends since then. We hang out almost every day and we get along great. A couple weeks after we met and talked we started holding hands and eventually started kissing...at least up until January. She called of my friends up crying and saying she doesn't know if she can date me because she's afraid she's going to hurt me in some way. My friend talked to her and told her that she needed to talk to me about it, not him, so she called me and we talked about it. She told me what she told my friend, and also said that she's just not sure if she's ready to be in a serious relationship since she's still in high school, and I'll be going into nursing school in August. She told me she would want to make a relationship between us work out, and with high school she's just not sure if she'd be able to. So I told her that's fine, and we can still be friends and hang out, and we did. We eventually ended up making out a few times after January too. We would make out one day, then not do anything for a few days/weeks, then we'd be at it again.
Up until about two months ago I was a virgin. My parents went out of town for vacation and I stayed home to watch my dogs. I invited her over. She knew I was a virgin, she wasn't one however, and she had told me before that if I lost my virginity to anyone it would probably be her because she didn't want me to have sex with a girl who was just going to eventually break up with me and never talk to me again. We watched a few movies during the day, and then when it started to get dark we began to make out and eventually we bumped uglies. The next day we hung out again, my parents were still out of town and she wanted to hang out at my house, so we did. I tried to cuddle up with her on the couch but she didn't really want to. I asked her if anything was wrong, and she told me some days she just hates to be held and she gets (I guess the best word to describe it is) claustrophobic when people do. I figured it was true because when I hugged her earlier in the day she didn't want it to last very long.
Well around May 3rd one of her old friends from another county began talking to her again after a year of silence. She had known him for about 3 years before she moved to my county. The reason they didn't talk for a year is because right before she moved, the guy confessed his love to her and she told him she'd wait for him. She moved, and ended up dating someone. The guy found out, it pissed him off, and he didn't talk to her for a year. They're now dating. He's 21, and lives almost a 50 minute to hour long drive away. He goes to college and has a job so he never gets to see her except for the weekends.
She spent the night at my house on Saturday. We were watching a movie, and had a little 11oz. bottle of Smirnoff Ice, we decided to just split it between us so it wouldn't go to waste. Neither of us get drunk or buzzed easily, so we weren't drunk or buzzing after drinking it. We had been cuddled up on the couch during the majority of the movie, and towards the end she laid her head against my chest and looked up at me. She's done it before, I knew she wanted me to kiss her. I was very hesitant about kissing her because I knew she was dating someone. I kind of just smiled at her, and then she just pulled my head down and we started making out. I didn't really think to stop it or anything, I guess I was kinda caught up in the moment because I'm still very attracted to her. We then got off the couch and went into my room, laid on my bed and kept making out. She started dry humping/grinding on me like crazy and told me I make it hard for her to not make out, and not have sex. We kinda had a break during the "makeout session" and I asked her about the guy she was dating and she told me that he's become an ass ever since they actually made it "official" that they were dating. He called her and yelled at her because she talked to some other guy at her school about God and The Bible. She also told me that he's too clingy, and tries to limit my time with her. I told her I saw one of the comments he left on her Facebook, he said "we'll get married one day." in French. I told her he seems delusional, and she said she kind of agrees. We then went back to making out...
Alright, we didn't just make out, she started rubbing and jerking on my buddy (yeah you know what I'm talking about, I'm trying to not make this dirty lol.) I told her she's being a tease, then I started teasing her and I started to finger her. She told me it felt amazing, and so I continued. She told me that she wanted me bad, but said she was afraid my parents might wake up and walk in on us. I told her that they're downstairs more than likely passed out from drinking too much. I kept teasing her, and then she told me if I didn't stop teasing her so good she was just going to make me "stick it in" anyway. I asked if she really wanted me to, and she said yeah, so I did. I didn't have a condom on (idiotic, I know, I snapped to my senses about 10 seconds later and pulled it out. That's not the reason I made this thread though.) We didn't really do much after that. We made out a bit more, and then eventually went to sleep.
Alright, now that you know my story, I'll ask my question(s) I suppose. I've been wanting to date her ever since I met her, but we never actually have. She's told me on multiple occassions that she still likes me, and would still date me. I haven't tried to date another girl ever since I met her. Now she's dating a 21 year old guy, who used to be her best friend in another county, and it makes me feel like I'm not going to get a chance to be with her now for some reason.
Am I an idiot for trying to get with her for so long?
Am I an idiot for giving in and doing what I did the other night with her?
Do you think she really does like me still, and that's why she did what she did the other night?
Should I try talking to her about the other night? Ask her if she thought it was a mistake or if she regretted it? (Also, a little story to go along with this question. I dropped her off at a friend's house the day after, and while we were inside, she told her friend, "I didn't really sleep too good last night." and then she looked at me and kinda smiled. So, I guess maybe she didn't regret it too much?)
Should I even keep trying?
I know this post is more of a story than an actual question, and I'm sorry for it being so long, but advice or anything would be awesome. :) If I think of any other questions, or any other details I'll update this post!