my mom

[Jess]

my mom has something against me going to check my email now. she just screamed at me for wanting to check my email. she thinks I'm talking to a stranger or something, WHICH I'M NOT DOING :mad:

she thinks everything's a game, and she thinks this forum is bad too, along with other forums.

she also has something against me having an online journal.

my mom doesn't respect my privacy. I know she's my mom and she's supposed to be 'concerned' and she's supposed to know everything I do, but why can't she respect my privacy? Why can't I have any?

and explaining to her won't work. also she's going to take away my laptop if she catches me 'playing games'

[Apparitions]

Have you got a (secure) password? If not then change it to something only you will know so she doesn't start spying on you. Tell her you're not doing anything wrong and would like to have your privacy respected. Think of reasonable excuses like you're growing up and you can't have your mum watching you 24/7 any more. Maybe use the computer with her as it may be the case that she doesn't understand the computer so automatically out of confusion assumes that you are doing bad stuff. If this is true, teach her how to use it herself. Tell her how VT has helped you and that you would like to have what you do on here kept private to you as she wouldn't like you spying on her and looking at her journal. She shouldn't know everything you do anyway, you're 15 and you need some independence as you will not have her in your life as much as she is now when you are older. Also, if you don't want her knowing what sites you go on, download Google Chrome and use the Incognito mode which doesn't save your history etc. Have you got a laptop? If so go to a private place and just use it there where she can't bother you. What I'm trying to say is that you should openly explain that what you are doing isn't wrong and actually helps you and your teenage experiences etc. You are a young woman nearly and you deserve to be treated like one. I'm lucky in that my parentals are quite laid back with me and my laptop but I think that what I have told you may help your mum to see that you're doing nothing wrong and will give you the independence you need. Of course, what I've just said may just be a load of shit but I think that it might just work. Good luck Jess :)

[ackmedsgirl666]

geez
well it sounds like ur mom is just concerned about your safety and she doesn't want the internet to get u into a bad predicament. my rents were like that before i left home andf my step mom had access to all of my passwords so she could check what i was doing online. so do not worry you are not alone in this. just simply explain to ur mom your concerns about her constantly checking on you or hovering over you etc. just simply try and tell her that you are not doing anything wrong and prove it to her if she does not believe you
hope this helps

[The Dark Lord]

Why did you tell your mum about the forums? She is just over reacting but it was a bit naive. But you are right about the privacy. Why not check her texts/emails to see how she likes it. She does care about you and your safety but maybe you shouldn't go on forums so often while she is soo pissed off, but sounds like a bit of a control freak. It is your life after all.

Good luck and let us know how you get on

[Jess]

well Matty...I didn't tell her about VT and those other forums...she saw me on those forums and as usual thinks they are 'bad'

also on another forum I used to go on...I think she's being like this because we're Asians. someone on that forum told me that her friend was Asian and her mother was very strict and wouldn't let her go out with her friends.

could it be this? :/

[The Dark Lord]

well Matty...I didn't tell her about VT and those other forums...she saw me on those forums and as usual thinks they are 'bad'

also on another forum I used to go on...I think she's being like this because we're Asians. someone on that forum told me that her friend was Asian and her mother was very strict and wouldn't let her go out with her friends.

could it be this? :/

No, I couldn't imagine it is a race issue. Thats just silly

[Jess]

oh....it just doesn't seem like she's concerned for my safety.....she looked once at VT, and had my dad block it

and about my email. I changed my password, but she still gets suspicious whenever I go on it.

I wish my parents weren't like this - well mostly my mom

[Ryhanna]

Just sounds like an over-protective parent, really. Just tell her you need room to grow and that you know what your doing.

It might be hard for your mother to do, but hopefully if she gets that message she'll move back a bit..

[The Ninja]

how did you get on if it's blocked btw if they're looking at your history press hmmm... let me think ctrl+shift+p

oh btw if your mom has an email and u have a usb drive look up usb theif and use it to get her password and check her history see how she likes it.

[Jess]

I have to use a proxy to get on VT. ):

[Bougainvillea]

No, I couldn't imagine it is a race issue. Thats just silly

But it could be a cultural issue.

[Jess]

Yes I'm thinking it's a cultural issue too