i need help figuring this out

[vanhalenftw1539]

(if any users have seen this before, it's re-posted because i needed more advice)

i know you all probably have read countless questions similar to this but here goes...

is it weird that the things that turn me on the most right now are the thoughts of jacking off with male classmates, or seeing them naked in like a locker room or something? only certain friends though. i also get turned on by seeing guys my age's armpit hair...

i mean i get turned on by women too but it seems like its mostly guys, and only guys my age and that i know personally...

and im almost 100% certain im not gay because i've never been emotionally attracted to a guy in my life, only girls. and anything further/more serious than the things i mentioned above, such as kissing another guy or gay sex, seems totally weird and disgusting. and i cant see myself having intercourse or being married to another man...only with a girl...

what's wrong with me? or is anything wrong with me? i'm 14

[volcomdude]

i know exactly what you mean..i think the exact same way you do. i think a lot of guys our age are like this its not a big deal.

[Iron Man]

You`re just curious. Are you physically and emotionally attracted to guys?

[vanhalenftw1539]

not emotionally by any means

[jjr011294]

ur ust curious i get turnt on alot by thet stuff too pm me if u wanna tlk

[theK]

yeah, i think its normal. sometimes i feel the same way bout certain people.

[ethanprosper_]

It's normal. For one thing, it's hormones, they play a big part in your arbitrary attractions, for another, you could just be mildly attracted to them, curious, or what have you. Ultimately, it doesn't make you "gay" it just makes you... open minded? Perhaps? If you don't find yourself able to emotionally or romantically attach yourself to another male, then it definitely means you're not gay, I think you're just young, full of hormones, and your body is basically turned on by anything and everything that mildly peaks your interest.

[AMili]

I'm in the exact same boat

[Mysterious Skin]

Just curious thats all

[Judas]

Same here. It's called being 'curious'.

[DanielBoy]

You are just curious. I know this because it is not just guys in general, it is certain people you are friends with; I believe every guy is curious or at least was during puberty. If you are close enough to one of these friends, talk to them about it, they probably feel pretty similar. There is NOTHING wrong with experimenting with friends.

After note, the purpose of experimentation is to help you DISCOVER your sexuality and sexual identity. I don't think you will end up being gay, since you like girls, but you may end up being bi.

Hope this helps. :D

[jimmy-magic]

alot of blokes at your age are like that man . peace .

[chrisB463]

Your just curious, so your normal. Its probably just your hormones making you feel this way. I used to be the same, so dont trouble yourself about it :)

[CuriousZach]

Nothing wrong with you, you're young and curious. You might be bi, but its too soon to be certain, do some experimentin, if you like it then you're bi. If you end up not, then you're straight. You're completely normal.

[zach_15]

No dude nothing is wrong with you.

[Babobobo]

Actually, you aren't gay/ bisexual at all. You will outgrow this, it's only because hormones are trying to keep up with your rapid growth and change, so they're kind of going crazy. A good number of men and even women go through this when they're in puberty. Especially if you aren't emotionally attracted to a guy, that's perfectly normal, and I would consider you straight.

What people mean by "curious" is that you want to try new things, that you haven't done before with people of the same gender usually. Very common amongst any type of person, I could not emphasize enough how normal these thoughts are.

[tinkergenius]

This is the way my Uncle (my Doctor) described it:

And I AM GAY - 14

He said: As little boys, we play "trucks" and "army" with: OTHER BOYS

We go fishing with: OTHER BOYS

We go Biking/Skating with: OTHER BOYS

We play Baseball/Football with: OTHER BOYS

We have sleepovers with: OTHER BOYS

As we mature in our teen years, we begin to take showers with and see: OTHER BOYS NAKED.

And then he said: All our lives we've been around...OTHER BOYS, so is it any wonder that we "naturally" feel more comfortable with them - going through Puberty, and UNCOMFORTABLE with girls at this time?

Boys ARE ALL WE'VE KNOWN (other than Sisters), so when we start to feel things in our body (our hormones going nuts) we are naturally attracted to the same sex to start experiencing our sexual feelings.

He also said, Guys ALWAYS wanna do things Right! They don't want to FAIL when (and if) they start liking girls at some point, so other guys are what they feel comfortable with, and more often than not...Guys will experiment with other guys, in their effort to recognize their orientation.

Hope I helped. Hope you don't mind that this came from a guy that KNOWS he's GAY, and I'm very happy with that.

[Inconvenience]

it might happen to alot of guys, but my advise'd be not to let it make u feel like it's "normal" or "good", coz one day probably u gonna consider that guys attract u more then women. so, at this age it's up to u what u develop in urself.

[SWMG]

Theres nothing wrong just curiuosity

[playa85]

I agree with tinkergenius......their are a lot of things going on at that age that could be misinterpreted and associated with sexual orientation.....

[The Flightless Hawk]

ur just curious, its normal, so dont worry

[zander]

i think it happens to some people and not others, for me it has always been guys i mean i have kissed girls and even dated a few but its guys i think about sexually. also i kinda want to say i dont think you have to be emotionally bonded to be gay . there are plenty of guys that are gay that never emotionally bond and want to marry another guy just like there are guys that never bond or marry girls. i think that thing about 'who do you emotionally bond with " is crap. what if you never find the right person, but you know guys turn you on. does that mean your not gay? duh, of course not. and what about guys that get married to women and still consider themselves gay? i think its all about what your attracted to, not what your bound to. i bet you will always have people you are attracted to, but may not ever have a person you emotionally bond with. just my opinion for what its worth

[JOSEE]

Me too, u also r probably always neat boys so of course them alot more, I'm strait and I think u are too

[lilum]

i'm the same :)

[blindbysight1]

like you said, youre 14, and this is completely normal for this age. as youve probably seen on here, there are many similar questions and they all get the same answer: youre just curious. theres nothing wrong with you and you dont have to be gay or bi.

[lil emo boy]

that'z normal..

[CodyFox13]

Sorry, but 4 me u r gay bro...

[jobrien510]

you just decribed my whole life in that statement, i have the sane mindset as you but it doesnt make us weird. it just shows that we are curious about our friends and wouldnt mind bonding with them

[Lfccfc]

Same with me, just curious