Coming Out Feelings

[igeek]

Summer has been great so far. I went to the Wisconsin Dells to a water park this last week and man, eye candy everywhere! I know, I'm a creeper. :P

While I was there, though, it became abundantly clear to me that my Mom and her partner are totally okay with me being bisexual. Thing is, I'm still kind of uncomfortable with telling them. (They don't know.) I'm sort of embarrassed I guess. So, not only do I really want to tell them, but I'm embarrassed about it and feel guilty for being embarrassed. My dad will never support it so I don;t even have to worry about that. (I only visit him every third weekend anyway.)

To be able to openly talk about guys that I notice or things like that, with my mom's partner especially, would feel so great. There is just something holding me back.

That's just the home front. As far as school goes, I don;t know if I will ever be ready to come out to my school. I know there are a lot of people who would be okay with it, but at that same time, some friends that I really love might not be.:confused:

[Captor K]

If they are okay with it, as you have said, then go ahead and come out. They should understand. This sounds like a great opportunity actually. If you can't say it vocally, write it down on a note or the computer and let them see it. But if you are sure you would have their support, take that extra step forward. I normally advise caution, but it seems as if you have a rare moment many of us do not get.

The school is another issue. Maybe you can do a friend or two...or none at all. It's not really any of their business, is it? But I suppose if someone asked, you could be honest, that would be one way. Good luck.

[igeek]

I guess you're right, honestly. I am lucky and am just complaining about it. You know, as far as school goes, I am head-over-heels for this boy in my 5th hour, but I know he is straight. So, in all honesty, I have no need to come out at school. It still seems so difficult.

[Captor K]

I understand. Being a minority is always a challenge. I've only come out to a few people--and what made that possible was the act I have an intense interest in sex and I talked about it all the time at school. I also wrote a lot of sex, so that helped too.

If you and this guy you like are good friends and you text each other, you can play the sex-questions game. Get a gradual feel for what he is and isn't into, even though he is straight. "Would you do this? Why? Would you let someone to this-and-that to you?"

You get the idea. You'd be surprised how kinky people are. ;)

[igeek]

Thing is, we're not totally close. As far as he knows we just chat occasionally.

[Captor K]

It was the same with the guy who is now my best friend. I thought he was strange stuff. So, talk to him more. Slowly. You'll get to know him. That's the thing about friendships...they lad you down unexpected paths sometimes. You'll find out what kind of guy he is in time....and whether you want to be associated with him or not. Patience is required, though. A lot of it.

[punkjake]

Well your mom and step mom will understand,I'm sure they've been through it,it took me forever to tell my mom i thought i was gay,and it was actually just curiosity!Good luck

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

I felt the same way for the longest time. I was embarrassed because, well idk. I knew my feelings were normal, and that there was nothing wrong with being bi ...But still I held back. Maybe it was fear of rejection, or that wording it to those around me made it real. School was hard because I didnt want to get picked on, and I was horrified of losing any friends. But then I thought, If they cant except me, then their not real friends. And so what do I care of what people think of me? Am I going to hide apart of who I am in fear of what people, ill never see after I graduate think? Its hard I know. Um..Maybe tell a trusted friend that u know would be kool with it first? What u do is 100% up to u. If u need to talk or whatever u can Pm me. Good luck dude~