What should I do!?

[OhMightyLion]

Ok so my best lady friend (let's call her V) told me that she like one of our friends (let's call him G). Well V told me that when she told G that she liked him he said "all right" and high-fived her, but he also asked her if she smoked weed and she said no. V then asked G if he smoked weed and he said yes (he even showed her his bag of weed). The point is that V called me almost crying asking me what to do, G is also my friend and we wanna help him. But he told V not to tell anyone that he smokes weed.


I am aware that it's his life and that it's his choice but we wanna help him, we don't want him to hurt himself...

[zebra_]

hurt himself smoking weed? hm.........kaaaay?
id understand if u wanted to help him if he was lets say doing heroin.
a lotta people smoke weed, its nothing to worry about

[scuba steve]

agreed with Zebra, apart from the legalitys towards it, if he want's to do it then there's not much that you can do. Maybe drop a hint every now and again that you don't like it and towards the long term effects, but the main thing is to ensure that neither you nor "V" are ever pressurised into something you do not want to do, especially drugs.

[Zazu]

I third zebra with the above poster's added points.

[OhMightyLion]

Ok, thanks for the help. I think that's what I'll do.

[INFERNO]

Although there are harmful effects from marijuana, they're not particularly severe in comparison to abuse of other illegal or legal substances. Short-term effects aren't very damaging to oneself, so there's no great threat to the person's health. The biggest threat is legal.

[Zazu]

Although there are harmful effects from marijuana, they're not particularly severe in comparison to abuse of other illegal or legal substances. Short-term effects aren't very damaging to oneself, so there's no great threat to the person's health. The biggest threat is legal.

I agree with this fully also.

[The Dark Lord]

I don't think this can be dismissed as weed isn't that bad. Doing drugs means one thing leads to another and you could end up doing coke or something serious. Perhaps draw G/V(can't remember which)'s attention to anti-drug websites or even tell something, not like a parent, but someone who has done drugs for advice. The key thing is not to let it go.

[zebra_]

I don't think this can be dismissed as weed isn't that bad. Doing drugs means one thing leads to another and you could end up doing coke or something serious. Perhaps draw G/V(can't remember which)'s attention to anti-drug websites or even tell something, not like a parent, but someone who has done drugs for advice. The key thing is not to let it go.

alotta people do weed. not all turn to other drugs, not even half.......not even 1/3...........alot less than 1/3. (donno what a G/V is so.....cant say anything bout that). if he doesnt do other, harder drugs, then hell be fine.

[welcome_to_chaos]

although its not possible to be phyisically addicted to weed u can beemotionaly addicted to it.. u feel like u are. and anything that people get addicted to whether its physical or not is dangerous. if he smokes like once in awhile i dont see anything wrong with that. but if its everyday he may need help.

[Sordid Saint]

Hurt himself? He's not gonna do ANYTHING that will hurt himself, besides poor diet lol... He's gonna eat, and then pass out. Like Kat Williams says - "He might LOOK like he's dead, but he's gonna wake up in 5 minutes and eat your whole kitchen" :D

[staying_alive]

Alright, a lot needs to be cleared up in this thread. I'll start by saying that I was in your place once. I had a friend who did a lot of drugs with people I wasn't particularly fond of. Being a guy, and her being a girl, I felt protective of her and didn't want anything bad to happen. I was anti-drug; That is, until I tried it myself. Nothing big, but I felt that I had to try it to understand why she was doing it. Now i'm not saying you should try it, but don't make rash decisions, like telling adults etc., without getting into his shoes first.

Secondly, marijuana should be the least of your worries. He has more chance of being in a car crash than doing significant harm smoking weed. It's not like cigs...there's no tar, nicotine, or millions of other chemicals to worry about. It's a plant that's burning. Does the smoke belong in your lungs? No. But is it going to kill you? No. Also, there is no physical addiction (like nicotine). He could quit if he wanted to, but that's not your decision to be making.

Lastly, I think instead of focusing on G's weed-smoking, you should work towards opening your mind. I get straight-A's in all honors classes and smoke weed occasionally to take care of my anxiety and calm myself down. If G isn't a total stoner (which i assume he isn't), you have very little to worry about. I'm fortunate enough to have seen both sides of the "above the influence" argument. I consider myself above the influence of people who have never tried (and furthermore don't understand the benefits of) such things.

Just my 2¢ .

[DanielBoy]

Just tell G, I'm guessing that is for Greg, that you and V, I'm guessing Veronica, that you don't support his derision to smoke something that is so detrimental to his health, and make an attempt to help. If he wont accept your help, there is nothing you can do, they need to want to be helped to be helped. Sorry about the name guessing, kind of bored. :P

I hope I helped. :D

[Sordid Saint]

Alright, a lot needs to be cleared up in this thread. I'll start by saying that I was in your place once. I had a friend who did a lot of drugs with people I wasn't particularly fond of. Being a guy, and her being a girl, I felt protective of her and didn't want anything bad to happen. I was anti-drug; That is, until I tried it myself. Nothing big, but I felt that I had to try it to understand why she was doing it. Now i'm not saying you should try it, but don't make rash decisions, like telling adults etc., without getting into his shoes first.

Secondly, marijuana should be the least of your worries. He has more chance of being in a car crash than doing significant harm smoking weed. It's not like cigs...there's no tar, nicotine, or millions of other chemicals to worry about. It's a plant that's burning. Does the smoke belong in your lungs? No. But is it going to kill you? No. Also, there is no physical addiction (like nicotine). He could quit if he wanted to, but that's not your decision to be making.

Lastly, I think instead of focusing on G's weed-smoking, you should work towards opening your mind. I get straight-A's in all honors classes and smoke weed occasionally to take care of my anxiety and calm myself down. If G isn't a total stoner (which i assume he isn't), you have very little to worry about. I'm fortunate enough to have seen both sides of the "above the influence" argument. I consider myself above the influence of people who have never tried (and furthermore don't understand the benefits of) such things.

Just my 2¢ .

Probably the most sensible post on this thread.

[knarknar]

you cant hurt your self from smoking ganja, let him do what he wants it's his choice, if he was doing more serious drugs, then maybee you should try to help him, but even then it's still his choice. just let him smoke his weed,

[minko401]

i feel that you should only intervene if you are seeing a change in his personality, his productiveness, or his motivation. if you see any changes, you first need to talk to him and tell him that it has affected his life too much and its not a free ride. if he does not change his ways, it may be time to call in for outside help. tell a trusted and unbiased adult, such as a counselor at school or a therapist.

good luck!