Next stage after kissing?

[cooldude123]

Hi all, and straight to the point... :)

Basically, me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now, and the whole kissing thing is a common thing and neither of us are nervous about it. We usually kiss goodbye, and other times etc. However, it is only the simple kiss on the lips, and that's really it. How would i move it up a stage, and how would i go about asking her about it all. we're usually open about these things, but its how i would go about saying it...

Thanks for all the help, im really greatfull :)

[Contra]

When you are alone and with nothing to do, ask her, if you are open to those kind of things, I don't think she'll be offended.
By the way, what kind of stage are you thinking of evolving to?

[The Redlight Bandit]

It's important that you do what SHE want because if you don't, you're pretty much screwed. LMAO!!

[Art_dude]

Just continue kissing and try to move it a simple step further. Say for example you're on the couch making out or something: try feeling her up. Not in a sleezy way, just start with a light touch on her inner thigh, her shoulder, back of head, her chest etc, something to let her know that you're interested in pursuing her further but not at an uncomfortable pace. Then all you have to do is gauge her response. Best case scenario is she responds well and reciprocates and thus you continue the cycle of going a step further and gauging her comfort level. Worst case scenario is she's uncomfortable and draws away - NOT as huge a deal as some may think.

If she questions you about it, simply apologize and profess that you thought you were at a different stage in your physical relationship than she was. If worse comes to worse, and she brings it up in conversation, just discuss what you're both comfortable with. But in all honesty it shouldn't be that complex. Don't over-think it and have fun :)

[Mariophys]

Agreed on Art dude. Take simple small steps forward, don't push her. simply let things flow. the movies is a nice place to take some steps forward, the adrenaline gets your mood sky high. The movie is not important,you probably will end up seeing anything but. as long as the room is not too crowded :P

In any case what you absolutely must not do is rush in. Since you are kinda young she will probably take it slower than any older girl.

[punkjake]

you should talk to her about it ,or make your next kiss a little longer,but if she seems weirded out by then don't do it next time.But yeah you should talk to her like someone said or you'll be screwed.

[cooldude123]

Thanks for the advice people :)

i tried what you said, and things are going well. she said she is new to it all too but is comfortable with it. i tried putting my hands on her shoulders and waist and she was fine, so everything is going well ;)

thanks for the help :)

[Sasha]

Cool. Yeah, always be aware of the signals she is putting out. That's a good guide.