the talk

[Future_Prez]

my dad and i have never had "the talk" and i'm begining to become curious about things, how can i bring this up without embarassing myself or my dad?

[Sandlapper50]

idk, thankfully, i never had this problem, my dad gave me the talk when i was like 11 or 12...i would just talk to him if i were you though, he'll understand, he was a teenager too

[Zero Beat]

Well, if you know what "THE TALK" (Booming voice) is. Just go to him, and say: "Hay, I have a few questions about something... private" Or something like that so you can get into a calm moment with him.

Or if you don't wish to do that: There is always VT. But try your father first.

[The Redlight Bandit]

Approach him in a calm way, & just tell him you're curious about things. Good Luck.. :)

[hswrestler]

When it's just the two of you, say something like "Dad, I have some questions about sex, my body, jerking off, etc." It will probably be awkward at first but don't be embarrassed.

[Zazu]

Well, if you know what "THE TALK" (Booming voice) is. Just go to him, and say: "Hay, I have a few questions about something... private" Or something like that so you can get into a calm moment with him.

Or if you don't wish to do that: There is always VT. But try your father first.

I second this.

[AMili]

I never had to have the talk

[cev199316]

When it's just the two of you, say something like "Dad, I have some questions about sex, my body, jerking off, etc." It will probably be awkward at first but don't be embarrassed.

thats a pretty blunt way to do it but it gets straight to the point hahaha

[Babobobo]

If I were you I would try to avoid the awkwardness of this situation. I never had the talk with my dad but I discovered everything there's needed to know over time. You could ask your older brother if you have one, and even ask on this website, that's what it's for.

[Silentkink]

IIf I were you I would try to avoid the awkwardness of this situation. I never had the talk with my dad but I discovered everything there's needed to know over time. You could ask your older brother if you have one, and even ask on this website, that's what it's for.

I agree with this too I have never had the talk, but I found out about things from friends older neighbors and of course more recently here on vt.

[Judas]

Just go up to him and blurt it out. It might be awkward but once you get into it, it seems a hell lot easier :D

[Milo1234]

well ive never had 'The Talk' and im 16 so idk wat to say exept gently bring up the subject and im sure he wont mind talkin about it, he was your age once

[Spoookster]

U can also have the alternative to ask us :D

[Muscleteen92]

dont ask ur dad, my parents never had the talk with me. I learned from my friends.
and i agree with spookster!
We VT ppl got ya back! lol

[DanielBoy]

Really with the internet and sites like this one, :), "the talk" is being fazed out. If you really feel like you want to talk with him about it, just bring it up, and there is no way to make it not be awkward. I suggest putting your questions up on VT, and getting answers from people who have been through it.

Hope this helps. :D

[TylerD96VA]

i haven't gotten 'the talk'. there's stuff i've wanted to find out and looked online, that's how i ended up here. :)

[tomcut2000]

never had one and best to learn from here.. less embarressing!! trust me

[WakeyEr]

I havent had the talk eather. But I would just come out with it. Im a very stright up guy, so if I wanted to talk to my stepdad about something, I wouldent beat around the bush. He also told me I could come talk to him when ever so, Im set there. Just ask him, or even a older brother, there more understanding

[walpoler93]

me and my dad never had the talk either. i didnt feel like i ever needed to bring it up, and i feel that ive turned out fine.

[huginnmuninn]

never had the talk

[carpediem]

After my school had sex Ed in 4th grade my dad just talked to me about it. So bring up that you're studying sex or something and see what he says.

[TySpeedy]

Why would you want to have the talk?! Lmfao.

[bestever]

In like 5th grade, we watched a movie and then my dad filled in the rest

[tinkergenius]

hswrestler nailed it. Come right out and ask the question EXACTLY as he said.

Your Dad has an "obligation" as a Father, to respond to ANY questions you have, and at ANY AGE (in your life) you decide to start asking them...AND ...follow-up, so that you don't get BAD information. That's his job!

Again..be blunt. Ask about jackin! He'll probably snicker, or raise an eyebrow, or "clear his throat" or even get red faced from hearing his "little boy" asking "manly" questions, but he is - AND TRUST ME - "chomping at the bit"...Just waiting for you to ask him.

I'm Gay (and if you are)...unless he just knows it...like my Dad did, I'd stay away from that. If he ask you R U Gay....I'd say...I don't know. I'm certain I'll know my orientation a lot better as I get older.

[chris4]

im surprised you want the talk. its embarrassing and awkward. Is there really anything you need to know? i mean, i dont want to say that our advice will be just as good as your dads, because, well...most of us arent event adults yet.

But if you know pretty much everything, i dont see the point in asking your dad.

[The Flightless Hawk]

You should just go up to him and tell him you have some questions, it might be akward, but that will go away, cause he had the talk too

[niko0202]

Just look up your questions on the Internet. Wikipedia and Google are lifesavers, you could also just post your Questions here, its kinda one of the reasons why you use VT - to ask questions