I feel lost inside...

[infra_red]

I have had a long lasting relationship with my gf and we have been going great but lately a lot of changes have taken place. We have begun to broaden our horizons and go out with other people alone to expereiment on our trust levels (if u will). It seemed to be going ok and a great friend of mine is the one giving me advice but he likes my gf too. I dont mind that at all because I know how it is when you have feelings for someone but I feel she is beginning to fall for him. I know that my mate wouldn't do anything to destroy our relationship as he is great to me and has helped us both through bad times. I honestly feel depressed and I turned to another one of my mates explaining the situation and she said that my gf is falling for him too. I wouldn't normally worry about this but my gf doesnt see how this is affecting me. Earlier today she text me and i felt a burst of warmth inside me until i read it and she had asked me to say 'hey' to my mate and she texts me in order to find out if he is online so she has someone to talk too. I feel alone and am wondering on what to do in this impleasent situation. I know I may appear to be a bit paranoid but this has never happened to me before and I would do anything to stay in this relationship. We have been together for almost two years and it feels like a lot to go to waste. Please help me...anyone. I am in despair and in desperate need for advice...Please Help :(

[Octo22]

Best advice is to talk to your girl, tell her how it's making you feel.

[infra_red]

Best advice is to talk to your girl, tell her how it's making you feel.

I do talk try to talk to her but it usually ends up in an arguement.Do you think i should maybe talk to the boy i feel she is falling for aswell as im sure if he knew how i feel...he would step aside?

[Octo22]

hmm, sure have a man to man conversation with him. Just be sure to keep it very passive. Don't come off as angry, or upset. I find most arguments can be avoided if you keep saying "I don't wanna have an argument with you, and keep your voice low/calm" and saying "I understand your point but I feel .....blah blah"

[infra_red]

hmm, sure have a man to man conversation with him. Just be sure to keep it very passive. Don't come off as angry, or upset. I find most arguments can be avoided if you keep saying "I don't wanna have an argument with you, and keep your voice low/calm" and saying "I understand your point but I feel .....blah blah"

yea i c wat u mean thnx man :D ill try that

[mr_smite1]

Well the best advice i can give you infra, is tell this to the boy that she likes, it might come as a bit of a shock to him. Make sure that you are right about her falling for your mate. If he is a true mate, he will neva hurt your relationship, unles he got carried away or he was uber horny at tht precise time

[infra_red]

Well the best advice i can give you infra, is tell this to the boy that she likes, it might come as a bit of a shock to him. Make sure that you are right about her falling for your mate. If he is a true mate, he will neva hurt your relationship, unles he got carried away or he was uber horny at tht precise time

lol yea i kno wat u mean...well personally...i think at sum levels he already knos that she is slowly falling for him...do u hav ne advice on how to break it 2 my gf bout how she feels or ... wah?

[mr_smite1]

well it sounds as if ur m8 is quite a suave charmer, ask ur gf about wat she feels, but most of all give her space. If u crowd her and keep goin on about it then i am sure she will get annoyerd by tht and she will feel compelled 2 go 2 ur sxy m8. After all, u 2 have come a long waty 2 geva

[infra_red]

well it sounds as if ur m8 is quite a suave charmer, ask ur gf about wat she feels, but most of all give her space. If u crowd her and keep goin on about it then i am sure she will get annoyerd by tht and she will feel compelled 2 go 2 ur sxy m8. After all, u 2 have come a long waty 2 geva

yea i kno wat u mean...he is a gr8 mate 2 me n we hav loadsa laugh...most of all...he is very generous and respectful of ur feelings...i realli need help lol...n ur rite...he is sexi :P

[mr_smite1]

Well u will have 2 watch him, if his sexiness seduced ur gf, then i guess you have to just admit to the fact tht his uber atractiveness has finally payed dividends. and i would have been rele shocked 2 know tht sum1's gf actually fancied me :P tht kid is lucky in one way, but unluck in another

[infra_red]

Well u will have 2 watch him, if his sexiness seduced ur gf, then i guess you have to just admit to the fact tht his uber atractiveness has finally payed dividends. and i would have been rele shocked 2 know tht sum1's gf actually fancied me :P tht kid is lucky in one way, but unluck in another

lol yea i c wat u mean...i dont wan it 2 destroy our friendship aswell...like i kno its not his fault wit his feelins cos we hav all liked sum1 in a relationship once...n it sounds kinda selfish but i hope my gf doesnt feel the same way bout him...she is gettin pretty friendly wit him n stuff, like i sed earlier, which i dnt mind but i just dont want thier relationship 2 grow til she falls 4 him...like i love her and would do nethin 2 keep her...just it seems like shes rubbin it in a lil u kno

[mr_smite1]

well as long as he isnt rubbing IT in a little:P im sure ur m8 is just looking to increase the relationship tht u have with him through having a look at what is urs :P im sure he would neva want 2 go further with ur gf *shifty eyes*

[infra_red]

well as long as he isnt rubbing IT in a little:P im sure ur m8 is just looking to increase the relationship tht u have with him through having a look at what is urs :P im sure he would neva want 2 go further with ur gf *shifty eyes*

lmao im sure he would...he does fancy her loads n its kinda scary u kno

[mr_smite1]

well how do u know he fancies her loads? It might just b ajoky thing or it could possibly be tht he fancies quite alot of girls. I am sure ur gf is very hot looking. But im sure she would prefer you than ur m8. Can you describhe urself and ur m8, dont hold back ny comments

[infra_red]

well how do u know he fancies her loads? It might just b ajoky thing or it could possibly be tht he fancies quite alot of girls. I am sure ur gf is very hot looking. But im sure she would prefer you than ur m8. Can you describhe urself and ur m8, dont hold back ny comments

ok...well...i am 16...gf is 15...otha boy is 15...me n my mate go 2 the same skwl...she goes 2 a diff 1...my mate is prob 1 of the best mates ever and i can tell him nefin...as is my gf n she also feels the same way bout him...nefin else i 4got?

[mr_smite1]

Give me a physical description of u ur m8 and ur bf, dont b afraid u might hurt ny1ns feelings. Evry thing sed on here is kept on here

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Give me a physical description of u ur m8 and ur bf, dont b afraid u might hurt ny1ns feelings. Evry thing sed on here is kept on here

well my gf can b quite stroppy sumtimes n it can realli get me n her down...n i also feel like i get the blunt of the arguement she may hav wit her mates like if she has an arguement...i get the blame 4 it...n its not even me arguin u kno...just seems a lil controllin n mymate is gr8...n i aint just sayin dat cos im online...its the truth n he is very genuine n stacey is very fond on him 2...nefin also or was that 2 bleak?

[mr_smite1]

It will do, well if ur m8 is genuine, then i guess tht u should ask him bluntly. I would prob say summat along the lines of "Ye she is a nice guy/girl, quite attractive and a smokin bod (sp?) then i would prob chat a little whiule about the situation

[infra_red]

It will do, well if ur m8 is genuine, then i guess tht u should ask him bluntly. I would prob say summat along the lines of "Ye she is a nice guy/girl, quite attractive and a smokin bod (sp?) then i would prob chat a little whiule about the situation


yea i c...welll im in skwl rite now and am with him next lesson so i will talk 2 him bout it...thnx mate...ill add 2 ur rating :P

[mr_smite1]

thanks, just remember this one thing. U have been her 1st time (if u know wat i mean) and dya think she will throw tht away? What r ur views on open relationships then?

[infra_red]

thanks, just remember this one thing. U have been her 1st time (if u know wat i mean) and dya think she will throw tht away? What r ur views on open relationships then?

well 2 b onist...i did feel a lil uncomfaortable at first but after my gf spent sum alone time with my mate and i got offered 2 go out wit her mates...i feel a lot more relaxed about it now...i would neva let her do nefin silly tho like take her relationship wit otha boys further...i am all open wit her havin otha m,ate etc but if it turns into sumfin eles...i fell i am entitled 2 feel a lil paranoid agreed?

[mr_smite1]

hmmm....so would u eva consider lettin her go as far as idk, a kiss but no further with a boy? and if u trusted her u would prob let her :P

[infra_red]

hmmm....so would u eva consider lettin her go as far as idk, a kiss but no further with a boy? and if u trusted her u would prob let her :P

emotional guilt trip...nah i wudnt...i dnt fink ne1 wud

[mr_smite1]

Well it was just a suggestion

[infra_red]

Well it was just a suggestion

lol yea i kno...thnx 4 that smite

[mr_smite1]

If ur gf eva said i love u, 2 anova boy on msn. Wat would u say? and wat would u doif the boy returned that gesture (hypothetically speaking)

[infra_red]

If ur gf eva said i love u, 2 anova boy on msn. Wat would u say? and wat would u doif the boy returned that gesture (hypothetically speaking)

im not sure...i would deffinately hav 2 talk 2 them bout it and c how they feel in comparison to how there relationship is with me u kno...but i wud b kinda shocked...hva u ever had a mates gf say dat 2 u?

[mr_smite1]

not those exact words, but i once had a m8s gf say to me tht she rellle fancied me and if shee knew iwould return the compliment then she would say she loved me, but im not sayin who tht was cos i promised her i wouldnt say nything....oops!

[infra_red]

not those exact words, but i once had a m8s gf say to me tht she rellle fancied me and if shee knew iwould return the compliment then she would say she loved me, but im not sayin who tht was cos i promised her i wouldnt say nything....oops!

lol nice 1...may i ask tho...do i kno this girl....like realli well?

[mr_smite1]

you may do, but u havent heard nything rite ;)

[infra_red]

you may do, but u havent heard nything rite ;)

yea thats ok...does her name begin wit s n end in y...mayb wit tase in the middle?

[mr_smite1]

I cant say sorry, but its a close friend of yours. Please dont tell her i told you. Please!!! ova wise i will tell her all of wat u tld me, ad i will link her 2 this post :O lol. im goin 2 bed now. cu 2morro. I will dream about her :O

[infra_red]

I cant say sorry, but its a close friend of yours. Please dont tell her i told you. Please!!! ova wise i will tell her all of wat u tld me, ad i will link her 2 this post :O lol. im goin 2 bed now. cu 2morro. I will dream about her :O

ok :'( .

[Makod]

lolteenagerelationships

they never work out.

[infra_red]

lolteenagerelationships

they never work out.

init life sucks

[mr_smite1]

So tell me infra, how do u feel about the situation now?

[infra_red]

So tell me infra, how do u feel about the situation now?

it pretty much fukin sucks

[mr_smite1]

you have 2 forgive me some time

[infra_red]

you have 2 forgive me some time

no time soon...bring a book if i were you cos its guna take a while

[mr_smite1]

on your own head be it