they say i've changed

[xgeekyrocksx]

Well.. all my friends are saying im acting really different and..moody.
i suppose only one of them knows i self harm and i tried to explain what it was like when she asked.. but the rest dont know so, i dont have an excuse.
i acctually dont know if its the self harm thats making me like this! :confused:
I'm really worried it'll come out with out me knowing and... i dont know why i've posted this i guess i just want to know if i should tell them and..how i should tell them.
hmm, sorry this was pointless but it might make me feel better xx.. which is good.. :)

[starrburst]

Don't worry 'bout it. Just try to talk to someone about it, maybe another close friend or, if you think you could, tell a parent or another trustworthy adult. ;)

[Wish]

It isn't pointless at all to ask for help. Don't ever think that.

It sounds as if you want to reach out for help but don't quite know how and are doubting the response if you do so. It might be worth talking to the friend who knows about the selfharm, about what she thinks the group's reaction might be. You never know, she might help you tell them. Keep talking to her because talking is always good.

I think that self-harm does alter our behaviours. There is no getting past that. I think that it makes us more secretive and less likely to want to show our emotions. I think we become more jumpy and more prone to a swing in emotions at any point in time. Obviously, I could be wrong, that is just my perseption.

Take care xx

[xgeekyrocksx]

thank you for the replys xx
i'd be too scared to talk to my parents (yeah im a wimp) :)
i could speak to my friend about telling someone else though... how didn't i thnk of that?
and yeah i see what you mean by saying it alters our behaviours..

[natt]

i spoke to a close friend about telling the larger group and she helped me realise that they would care and be there for me, i think what i was scared of is the initial reaction. And if anyone isn't there for you then they're not good enough for you to be their friend completley!
you don't have to do it all at ohnce and not all of them take your time and trust what you believe
take care and good luck
x

[xShaaannonx]

I'm the same!
I've been cutting on and off for the past year and a half, and when it's at it's worst (Cutting daily) my friends and parents all ask if i'm ok, and say i've been very quiet and withdrawn...
I don't mean to be. I don't even notice that I am. I guess it's just something SI does to you...
I hope you do tell someone though, and get better.
None of us deserve this.
xxx

[Wish]

Yeah, I think that it might be an idea to speak to your friend about telling people :)
And just because you cannot tell your parents right now does not mean you a wimp, I'm terrified of my parents finding out and some of the most courageous people I know would bottle out. It'll come, with time and trust, just don't pressure yourself. It's baby steps :)

[xgeekyrocksx]

ohh!! it feels better to know im not the only ne. thanks :) xx hmm i sound really mean saying that... and yeah maybe i will be able to tell my parents some time, but to be honest..not anytime soon xx