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Dunce
June 21st, 2010, 03:31 PM
Hello:P

So, up until I was about 14 I liked boys and then I randomly went off them and gradually I went onto girls. I had alot of trouble liking girls because I had always been boy crazy and wanted a family etc etc. So then I finally accepted that I like girls, and soon after that, I went off girls. It's weird, because when I think of boys now, I do feel attraction, but not sexual attraction, like, the thought of getting physical with a guy seems just awkward for me.
But when I think of girls, I dont feel emotional attraction but sometimes, if i am um... feeling turned on already I am physically attracted to them, but still not boys.

So I'm emotionally attracted to boys(I think) and physically attracted to girls, I' confused.
BTW I dont actually have crushes on boys, but I do feel attraction to them... it's weird, it makes me feel asexual and bi at the same time.

Ps. I am depressed and I have anxiety... I feel as if these are constantly playing around with my mind. Could I just not be emotionally ready for crushes or something because of that?

thepieman
June 21st, 2010, 03:36 PM
It's a tricky situation. Chances are you could be bi, but you're hormones and attractions may change over time yet. Personally, I wouldn't think about it too much. Continue to experiment and you'll decide eventually, or you may never actually identify yourself with a certain sexuality. Either way it's completely normal as a teen to feel like this, so don't worry about it at all.

nick
June 21st, 2010, 03:38 PM
You answered your own question, you're confused. Give it more time, maybe try things out a bit and see what feels right for you. Try to project 5 years into the future, who do you see yourself with then? Above all though, dont push the timescale, you have your whole life to work out the answer.

Dunce
June 21st, 2010, 03:44 PM
Thanks people (:

It's hard to figure out who I see myself with when I'm so confused, lol. If I imagine myself with a dude-we seem happy, although it's going nowhere. Girl- hmm... it's hard to tell, I just dont think there would be many feelings...

It's also hard to experiment when no one would lay a finger on me :(

nick
June 21st, 2010, 04:02 PM
Thanks people (:

It's hard to figure out who I see myself with when I'm so confused, lol. If I imagine myself with a dude-we seem happy, although it's going nowhere. Girl- hmm... it's hard to tell, I just dont think there would be many feelings...

It's also hard to experiment when no one would lay a finger on me :(
I doubt if your last sentence is true, it may seem that way, but that doesnt make it true. Talk to me more if you think I can help.