How are you supposed to know?

[Discomposure]

Can I just ask you guys, how are you supposed to know whether a lad is genuinley being nice, and is into you. Or is just looking for sex?
My heads all over the place at the moment and this lad that i've recently just got talking to seems to like me, and this has cheered me up a fair bit. Although thats good, I just can't stop thinking he's after one thing, why would someone like me?

I keep making up excuses why I can't go somewhere with him, like to the cinema or just out, because in my head I know he won't like me. I know i'm holding myself back, but I can't change my thoughts on this. I wish I had a better view of myself, more confidence. It's beginning to piss me right off.

[starrburst]

Well, do you trust him? Stop putting yourself down, I'm sure you are an amazing person. Your to curious, try to relax...believe in yourself...have faith! Dating is supposed to be fun, just take it steady. Hope it goes well xxx

[Violetmonster]

wel, if you know him well, consider weather he would ever seem the type of person to do it.
if you like him, go for it, you can never know what will happen in a relationship, thats what makes them exciting!
if your very brave, then just ask him straight :)

[Discomposure]

Lol, thanks. I don't know him like a good friend, we've recently got talking thats all. I'm not sure what I'll do, i'm just pathetic at going for stuff haha.
Thanks though :) x

[Sage]

Experience.

[sabotaged111]

You've got nothing to lose in my opinion. Go for it, just make sure if he asks you to do anything you don't want to do, say no and mean it. Just go, get to know him more and have a blast. The worst that can happen is he isn't what your looking for but hey, you won't exactly lose anything, right?

Connor.

[Jenna.]

Time...just get to know him and talk to him, and if he seems like a good guy then he probably is. I know with my boyfriend I could tell after a few weeks of talking to him that he was a keeper because we had important conversations and genuinely enjoyed hanging out together, not just to make out or whatever.

[Discomposure]

Thanks.

[The Dark Lord]

An easy way to find out is see how long he goes without asking for sexual favours. If he gets to know you and talk to you first and spends a lot of time with you, then chances are he is going out with you for sex. If he wants sex straight away, or keeps bringing up sex, then he's only there for the sex

[Paladino]

Well if he treats you well and acts nice, and if he shows respect for you he is genuinley into you but if all he talks about is sex between you two and he always asks you to have sex with him then he is probably just in it for the sex. Hope I helped.

[Jess]

if he keeps talking about it...well you know he's only looking for that....

[Dazzle]

Some Guys You can tell if so all they talk about is sex(some will hide until the last second) And Then There's Genuinly Nice (Like Me) Who Are Very Honest Boys/Girls And will be straight up with you and will love you ( Does Not Count If You Only Hug And Kiss ONLY In Public Usaully its an attention Grabber) Here Is A Phrase "Nice Guys Finish Last" So Think About Him