Advice on telling, please

[starrburst]

I have decided to seriously tell a friend about me SHing, problem is...I'mnot one for being serious...We usally just joke around and stuff. I always back out everytime I try to even bring up the subject, I have never being a very open person...and can be quite shy....Last time I tried she made hurtful comments, although she didn't mean them in a bad way.I think I just...shock or worry? people... I don't know how to say it...Not even over text...Any advice?

[misery_business]

when I told my friends they were really supportive, just say that you need to talk to them and tell them something like things have been hard and your way of coping with it is by self harm, but they might not be as reasonable as you might hope cause self harm is really serious and they might be scared or really woried so who knows maybe they might over react :)
good luck X it takes guts to make a desition liike thiis <3

[starrburst]

Thanks =)

Urgh...the urges....I have somebroken glass right there....I want to cut....I want to engrave my feelings into a line of happiness....I just....don't want to give up yet....Urgh....I might have to....just one word onto my stomach....no one will notice.....but urgh....i dunno...i can' resist much longer DX

[ShinigamiMaiden]

I think the sooner you tell somebody the better. It will help you give up self harming for good. Unlike you I don't have the guts to tell anybody and most of my friends found out for themselves. They were very supportive, and knowing that somebody else other than me knew about it helped me to stop. I felt like I wasn't just letting myself down, but my friends too. Just come out with it gently, and i'm sure they will understand if they are your real friends.

[starrburst]

They probably aren't real friends...They hate me for cutting...I used to cut in class, when I couldn't risk cutting at home...they told me to stop...they just don't understand...It is addictive, ever so addictive...

[Mike321]

Have you got one friend who you really trust you could tell
Thats what I did, just chose one person who I knew I could talk to
It does really help having someone else to help you with it, makes coping with it easier
And they shouldn't hate you for it, everyone has problems, just becuase you cut doesn't mean your not normal

[starrburst]

Fuck me!

My sister saw my scars, I'm sure....she asked me what had happened to my wrist....I just hid it and said that it was nothing....

A few minutes later she went off with my dad...I'm sure it was about me =( I don't know what to do now...I daren't even stay in the same room with them alone in case they start questioning me...I'm going to fucking die DX

[misery_business]

Well if your dad does ask you I think it's better to tell him than just lie, It's better that your family knows so they can help you get more help and support you <3

[starrburst]

It's not though, knowing them they'll make me eat with plastic knifes just in case xD

[misery_business]

haha, how about telling them that you don't need to use plastic knifes ? lool
If they know..think you could talk to them and kind of teach them about self harm and help them undertand more about it.
:)

[starrburst]

I cba...I can get over it on my own...just they'll make me worse.

I don't like them that much, I hardly even know them...Well I should...but I don't tell them anything...so xD

I'm a bitch xD

[misery_business]

I know what you mean ! It's exactly the same with me and my parents but i don't have any siblings. But does anyone know at all ?

[starrburst]

Yeah...I told my friends...well no, I used to cut in class....they saw me...yeah >.< But they don't take me seriously, we aren't serious people...=')

[starrburst]

Fuck me!

They just asked me about it, now they know...I didn't tell them...they just saw it...I didn't show them...they saw by mistake like i said

I'm not telling them anything...or showing them anything...I'm just dreading the next few days...weeks...months? They said I could see a councilor, if I won't talk to them 'bout it....I don't want to say anything...because I have nothing to say...no reason to cut...just a way to escape, know I'm alive, y'know? What should I do?

[Malcolm Tucker]

I think you should see a counsellor. It'll only help like, and the offer is there. It won't do any harm just to have one session and see how it goes. They're trying to help pet :hug:

[starrburst]

Yeahhhhh...I didn't even know we had a councilor at school till my sister mentioned it..so yeah xD

[Malcolm Tucker]

Well still, just see them and see what they say pet ok? Just give it a go.

[starrburst]

It's not that bad...I'm just avoiding my sister....DX