Coming out

[miami_kid]

So im having trouble deciding whether or not to come out to people... Ive told one person so far, a really close friend, and it went great. the issue is, most people at my school that im friends with arent very tolerant. a lot of them are from the same crowd of people who still use gay and faggot as an insult... somehow i just cant imagine telling them that im bi going very well... any advice, especially from people whove gone through the same thing?

[CaliKid24]

Umm honestly be careful who you tell. I went thru the same thing, I told one of my friends and he told the whole skool.

[karl]

If you're having trouble deciding then the answer must be don't say anything until you are completely sure and comfortable with the idea. If there is no necessity then why take the risk?

[CantBeTamed]

well for one if they are your true friends they wont care but if you dont want it totally out there be careful who you tell as soon as i dropped out of school(yes i got my ged) i finally realized im totally gay and not bi and i told my closest friends and one of them idk who opened their big mouth and told the wrong people cuz as soon as i told people it was all over school even after i left it was the topic of conversation i got txts and calls from people i either hadnt talked to in a long time or people i didnt even talk to(how they got my number Idk) asking me if it was true or not and i got hate txts and calls too so just be careful i had allot of damage control but i did manage to keep it away from my family in school im sure they heard about it but i was able to put a stop to it

[thepieman]

If you're having trouble deciding then the answer must be don't say anything until you are completely sure and comfortable with the idea. If there is no necessity then why take the risk?

I agree, the last thing you want to do is to be forced into coming out. If you feel the time is right then tell people but there's no rush. Also, you never know what reactions you're going to get. I've been out for nearly a year now and I've been surprised at how well people took it, but not everyone is as lucky, so be careful.

[miami_kid]

alright thanks... a number of people have said its better to come out as soon as you think you can, because its easier, but im glad there are others who think the same way i do :P

[pcd31]

I had a blast when I came out. It was the most fun I've had in a while. I told one girl who was also bi and she told others but I didn't care. Then I told a "friend" who I knew would screw things up the way I like. He made up the craziest stories loosly based off the made up stories I told him (about past experiences and stuff). Within a week most of the people I knew had found out and throught I was a crazy horn dog. It was fun.

[chrissm]

Ask yourself what the benefits are, then ask yourself what the risks are, and judge from that whether its worth doing at this time. If it doesnt really gain you anything then why take the risk?

[Ryhanna]

Maybe you should wait a while. Some communities aren't ready for it...

Just give it time, and come out when you FEEL ready.

[polarbear]

i always say you have to get strong enough or old enough to come out or dont

[Shortkid]

No way am I going to come out at least not until I'm out of high school. I don't feel a real pressing need. Why do you want to risk disaster ?(if it gets spread around and blown out of proportion)

[miami_kid]

thanks shortkid... i think so too

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

I went threw that : / I was afraid to tell my friend because she used gay and fag as a insult so I thought she was homophobic. But when I finally told her. I found out she was bi too! She said that she didnt really well... notice. She just said it because shes heard it used and picked up on it. If u tell ur friends and their not kool with it, then they were only pretending to be ur friends. True friends will except u. Its hard I know, and it totally sucks when u get the reaction u didnt want. But its not ur problem that they assumed u to be straight. U just have to be strong.