Was it all a phase

[tripolar]

I never would have considered liking dudes, but then around 14 i started to think about it. I experimented at 15 and started to mess around with my friend for the next 2 years. During this time i felt my preferences slide from girls to guys and i figured i was bisexual, more of a 60-40 towards guys.

But after the start of this year i started to lose my attraction to guys, and started to go back to girls. But in the last few months i have lost all desire towards guys and now seem to find it unappetizing to think about guys. I don't jack off to it or watch the porn anymore. I wanted a boyfriend for a while but no longer want one... at all.

I feel as if i've gone full circle, and am back to where i was before. But its strange how my preferences changed then changed back (even though it was over several years). Was it all a phase caused by hormones or am i really still figuring out who i really am? It doesn't bug me but i am wondering what exactly happened.

[starrburst]

I think it was you trying to find out who you really where. Alot of people go through a phase when they will be unsure or confused about their sexuality, you where probably un-aware of it though. It is simply a part of growing up, you may go back to finding guys attractive after. But don't worry about it, it's perfectly normal.

[thepieman]

I think it was you trying to find out who you really where. Alot of people go through a phase when they will be unsure or confused about their sexuality, you where probably un-aware of it though. It is simply a part of growing up, you may go back to finding guys attractive after. But don't worry about it, it's perfectly normal.

Yeah I agree, many people take years to figure out their sexuality, sometimes even people in their late teens early 20's are sexually curious. You could still be bisexual. But, you could well be straight, and it may have been simply the hormones that made you attracted to guys. This happens to a number of people, so don't worry about it. Only you know what you truly are, so only you can determine what sexuality you have and it can change.

[Shortkid]

Wow that really makes me stop to think. I'm 14 and right now thinking that I am gay, but after hearing your story I'm wondering if it will last. Thanks for sharing that.

Chris

[sam i am]

it probably was a phase u was jsut curious with guys and it seemed like fun when u young and ur hormones just makes it worst so yea thats what i think

[CantBeTamed]

it could be im starting to feel the same way

[Aspiringanonymous]

Perceptions change, external circumstances change, and uncertainty is always a factor present to some degree - usually, the younger we are, the stronger it is. Recognize that dynamic shifts are possible at any moment, and be open, even if it is difficult to do so at times. Many do go through a long period of confusion before arriving at a genuine clarity, and that is okay, it is a natural part of the process.

However, I do not like the idea of dismissing passing sentiments as 'just a phase' - at one point they were real and significant to you, whether or not they were destined to last - and that is all that should matter. Don't worry too much about aligning with any label; it will integrate itself naturally as a part of your identity when you are ready - when you have finally emerged with a clarity and confidence previously unknown.