Feeling bad

[Continuum]

I'm getting a feeling that my friend's starting to hate me. I'm not that sure because she refuses to talk to me at all. Every time I try to IM her, all she sends me are "...", not replying at all or an occasional 'Fuck off'. Sometimes she even goes offline when I'm online. What is happening, she's my first 'best' friend and crush when I took my first step on high school. I don't want to ruin my relationship with her just because of this. One of her friends, who we brand as an asshole, have been ruining my image to her by lying like, what I said, an asshole. He's a backstabber of some sort, and my friends are telling me he is too. Sigh. :<

[Aspiringanonymous]

Try to find an occasion to confront her directly and ask for an explanation regarding her recent strange behaviour - you deserve one, after all. If she doesn't want to be friends anymore, then it is wise to make that clear as soon as possible rather than drag the issue on further and cause unnecessary trouble on everyone's part.

If the talk turns out undesirably, remember that it's important to respect her wishes. When someone is intent on breaking off with another, clinging on to them will only intensify their desire to do so. If you still value her, perhaps it would be worth considering the approach of letting her go, but also letting her know that you are always willing to re-build the friendship whenever she is ready again.

There are reasons behind every action - but sometimes, they are not straightforward ones and are better kept to oneself. It's very likely not your fault, but rather issues of her own that have somehow affected her relationship with you. Unfortunate events happen. People come and go. It may seem unfair, but that is just the rhythm of nature - every ending is a new beginning. Cry not for what is lost, but smile for what once was.

May everything work out for the better. :hug3:

[Wish]

I agree with Krezlyn above. It is important to respect your friend's decision and behave concordantly. It sounds as if you have other friends, even though this one means more to you. It is good that you know that this one person is a backstabber, that way none of you will be taken in by what he's saying. Try to talk to her when the environment is calm and unrushed, that way she won't try and brush you off with some hurried excuse.

Hope that it goes well and you take care xx