Dilema extrodinare

[Skeletal-Chic]

Okay, this is a major issue for me right now. I honestly can't figure it out or stop thinking about it. So I'm posting it here to see if anyone can figure it out or give any advice at all. Okay, here goes:

I've been friends with the guy called K for a while now and I know he's gay and he knows I'm Bi and he's said stuff that makes me think he likes me. But I've told him that I'm not ready for a relationship - I never said with him though, just in general - because I've only recently come out to my Mom. Also, I've never really spent any time with him in person. Buttt.... there's also a girl I think I like called M who I've met before and spent days in town with her friends and mine, though I doubt she likes me back. I've told one of our friends that I like her and the friend said she didn't know if she liked me back either.

I know I couldn't be in a proper relationship with K but I can't stop thinking about him..... but I'd rather be with M.... I'm just so confused about what I want and who I want to be with. Am I ready to be in a gay relationship with K, or should I forget him and pursue M? I'm just so confused about it all!

[Blood]

First of all, you don't have to be in a relationship at all. It sounds to me like you've convinced yourself that you have to be in one. You're what, 16? Stop trying to get with someone and just relax. You'll find the right person, or he/she will find you.

[Scarface]

Relationships can be very confusing especially when you are trying to weigh out who you like or want to be with more. I think you should spend more time with the one that is always on your mind and the one that you feel that you have better chemistry with. It doesn't have to be right away where the decision has to be right away. Just put the thought of it at the back of your head, and when you spend time with one or the other you can determine by the longer time you spend and the more you get to know him/her.

Or if it makes it easier you could make a list of what you like about both of them whether feelings of your own or observations that you like. It all should be what you feel most comfortable with. In the end there is no right or wrong decision here and i can't make it for you. Whichever one you have the most attraction for, then pursue.

I know you will make the right decision. if you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here VM/PM me anytime. Good luck.

[Art_dude]

I think the anxiety of your first openly gay relationship is not letting you see the situation for what it is. It sounds like you like your female friend, but you really want to pursue a relationship with K. I think that M sounds like a safe cop-out - you like her, you feel comfortable with her, and you won't be sailing unchartered waters. That's all well and fine if you choose to go out with her, but I think you know that's not what you really want. As scary as it may seem right now, go for K. It will challenge you as a person and make you grow. I hope this helps.