i dont think i hav expirienced an orgasm...

[love_linds]

people say wen you hav an orgasm "you'll kno". but i really dont kno if i hav or not.

i hav been with my boyfriends for two years and he has tried to giv me that feeling..but wen he stimulates my clit i dont feel lik it feels as good as its supose to. so i feel uncomfortable and make him stop.
and i dont really lik messing around anyways so i just pretty much go straight to sex.

im not really big on masterbating so i havnt really tried it myself...
i just dont really kno what to do. and also is it normal for this too happen? (not expiriencing an orgasm)

[laxbro]

yeah trust me you will know when you have an orgasm its pritty good to say the leasst and if the clit dosnt work for you try to find your g spot, thats like the holy grail for an orgasm. and you can experience it with out your bf if you mess atound your self masturbating getting to know how your boddy feels and reacts

[myskias]

i agree with laxbro. but also the mental aspect of the orgasm is meaningful too. because when i have an orgasm and im like stressed or worried or uncomfortable it doesnt feel good at all. you need to just be relaxed and in the moment and stress free. feeling negative feelings or even thinking too much when your doing sexual activities usually makes the orgasm not as strong. thats from my expirences though.

or you can find out and see if you can involve one of your fetishes or something that make you super horny? haha i dont know :P

[love_linds]

i agree with laxbro. but also the mental aspect of the orgasm is meaningful too. because when i have an orgasm and im like stressed or worried or uncomfortable it doesnt feel good at all. you need to just be relaxed and in the moment and stress free. feeling negative feelings or even thinking too much when your doing sexual activities usually makes the orgasm not as strong. thats from my expirences though.

or you can find out and see if you can involve one of your fetishes or something that make you super horny? haha i dont know :P

that actually makes a lot of sense. because everytime me and my boyfriend fool around we are always in his room and his family is always home. and im paranoid of people walking in. even if it is 2 o' clock in the morning, lol.
i gotta learn to relax. :/

thanks for the help. :)

[myskias]

:) no problem! try not to force sex and stuff like that, just let it happen and be relaxed and in the mood for it :) thats when it will be the most enjoyable. if you need anything feel free to PM me!

[missbehavin]

No im sure u havent gotten an orgasm yet. there can be no doubt about it when u do.

[DeEnd]

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[love_linds]

The mental part is VERY important. The fact that people happen to be around when you are fooling around is only part of it. Other things ot think about are your relationship to your sexuality. While it is certainly fine not to masturbate, why don't you? Do you feel as though it's wrong? Have people put on you in the past that it's wrong? It seems like, from what you've written, that there is alot of baggage which may be holding you back from explorign your sexuality. If you want to answer any of the questions I asked above you can do it here and we can chat. :-) Best of luck girl, you'll have an orgasm yet!

the reason i dont is because i dont really enjoy it. it doesnt feel good to me. but its not lik its feels bad either. its just kinda whatever for me. i dont kno why either. i dont feel its wrong and no one has made me believe its wrong. i understand that its normal and completly natural. i just dont perfer to do it.
and lik i said, i dont kno why.. :confused: