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love_linds
June 17th, 2010, 06:19 PM
me and my boyfriend hav been going out for almost two years. two years full of ups and downs. our relationship is so srtong. but at the same time im afraid im...falling out or love with him... i tend to get this "feeling" as we like to call it. and what it basically is, is a feeling i get wondering if i really do love him or not... im 16 and hes 18. i use to get this "feeling" all the time and then it went away for about 2 months. it recently started coming back again... i keep telling myself i love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him..but at the same time i cant feel it. i cant imagine myself without him. but this feeling gets so bad. i sometimes cant breath very well and end up having a panic attack.

another reason i think the feeling started coming back is because hes going into the army and is leaving july 12th for basic training...and this is me sub-contiously getting ready for it. we are going to try our HARDEST to stay together through that. but i dont kno whats going to happen...

me and matthew use to talk about everything. especially the future. and it would make me so happy imagining the amazing apartment that we would get. going camping together. and constantly being together. but lately wen we talked about things lik that i just get the "feeling". and im just bleh about it. so i have recently told him to please stop bringing up things about the future. also, because we are so young and highschool sweethearts dont really make it..

i just feel lik im the ONLY person in the entire world who is expeirencing this....
ive tried to talk to my friends and other people about it, they just dont seem to understand.

so im just really wondering what you think about this??
anything will do.. please....
Hatsune Miku
June 17th, 2010, 07:28 PM
I've had a feeling similar to the one you're experiencing. Except it wasn't because I felt like I was falling out of love, but because I felt like our relationship was falling apart. Just know that you're not the only one, alot of people feel like this. Me and my girlfriend talk about the future alot, and were confident that we'll still be together. Do you have any idea why you're feeling this feeling? Maybe there's something missing in your relationship?
Fiending_the_freedom
June 17th, 2010, 08:47 PM
I know exactly how your feeling. Its normal and it sucks but it happens when you find someone and fall in love this young, if you want to talk about this further, or nees advice, seriously, pm me.
love_linds
June 17th, 2010, 09:05 PM
I've had a feeling similar to the one you're experiencing. Except it wasn't because I felt like I was falling out of love, but because I felt like our relationship was falling apart. Just know that you're not the only one, alot of people feel like this. Me and my girlfriend talk about the future alot, and were confident that we'll still be together. Do you have any idea why you're feeling this feeling? Maybe there's something missing in your relationship?

it makes me feel better knowing im not the only one.. :whoops:
i think the biggest reason is because staying together seems so impossible because we are so young. AND this is both of our first relationships.
which makes me want to do things with other guys. but at the same time, be with him. tho i will never cheat!
Hatsune Miku
June 17th, 2010, 10:03 PM
it makes me feel better knowing im not the only one.. :whoops:
i think the biggest reason is because staying together seems so impossible because we are so young. AND this is both of our first relationships.
which makes me want to do things with other guys. but at the same time, be with him. tho i will never cheat!

I also noticed hes going into the army. Have you tried talking him out of it?
love_linds
June 17th, 2010, 10:12 PM
I also noticed hes going into the army. Have you tried talking him out of it?

i tried sooo hard. but the problem is, hes already in it. no real turning back now.
i finally gav in because i didnt want to keep him from something he wants to do so badly. and he kept mentioning that it will be better for our future. financially.
Hatsune Miku
June 17th, 2010, 10:17 PM
i tried sooo hard. but the problem is, hes already in it. no real turning back now.
i finally gav in because i didnt want to keep him from something he wants to do so badly. and he kept mentioning that it will be better for our future. financially.

Oh... Well just hang in there. Things will get better. Try and do whatever it takes to keep in touch. I can tell you love eachother alot. I hope everything goes well. If you ever need more help just PM me

And don't think just because you're young you wont be together in the future. My aunt and uncle met in 8th grade, and look at em' now. Married for years, two daughters, big house.
love_linds
June 17th, 2010, 10:20 PM
Oh... Well just hang in there. Things will get better. Try and do whatever it takes to keep in touch. I can tell you love eachother alot. I hope everything goes well. If you ever need more help just PM me

And don't think just because you're young you wont be together in the future. My aunt and uncle met in 8th grade, and look at em' now. Married for years, two daughters, big house.

i will try my hardest, :) thanks.
i will keep that in mind. :)

yea, i kno two couples who hav been together since they were in highschool. even tho they are both divorced, it still gives me hope.

thank you, again. :)