New here and I really need your help please..

[blinkdude821]

Hi, I'm Sean.

Just signed up because I really need some help. All advice is much appreciated in advance.

I love girls, I really do, but I just cannot seem to get aroused by them easily. I watch straight porn and do get off on it, but not nearly as easily as when I watch gay porn. I don't have a problem with gays, but I do not want to be gay and being in a relationship with a man is extremely unappealing and gross to me. I think about guys at school though, and I'm aroused, but girls from school, nada. It's hard because I can't ever picture doing stuff with girls but want to, and I've been curious about doing stuff with guys but don't want to.

I've looked at possibly having HOCD (Homosexual OCD) and I fit the description quite well, but the only thing is that I DO get aroused by gay thoughts. But I also get aroused by straight thoughts, just not as easily..

Bottom line basically is that I love girls but have a hard time getting turned on by them and I get turned on by gay porn but DO NOT want a relationship with a man. Please help. I really need some.

[ilove..pie]

i think its just curiosity it happens to all of us and it might also be hormones

[ray8806]

I had the same problem for a few years. It passed only recently, well for the most part. At this age, I think that we aren't ready to make a final decision on our sexuality because hormones are going crazy and we don't have clear judgment. But anyway...

This doesn't make you gay. Just a little curious, and there is nothing wrong with that. You'll be fine and do NOT make any hasty decisions. Be patient, and let your body sort itself out. Sit down and think about your situation.

Do you find yourself sexually AND emotionally attracted to a guy? If so, you MIGHT be gay. That is not a final and definite answer.

Ask yourself the same question for women.

All-in-all, be patient. Assess yourself, and do NOT think or act too quickly. MANY, and I do mean many, guys go through a 'gay' phase during puberty. Even I did. It passes.

[blinkdude821]

Thanks for the advice from both of you guys. It's just a tad upsetting in your head when you want to feel normal but something like that happens ya know? But I hear about phases like this all the time.

And more specifically to ray8806, I am most certainly NOT attracted to guys emotionally, just curiosity for the past few years, I love absolutely everything about women, just have a hard time getting it up with them sometimes I suppose, haha.

[ray8806]

Well then there ya go! You're straight, just a tad bit curious. Again, there is nothing wrong with that.

And yea, it is a bit upsetting. It used to get me down and ruin my whole day at times. :/ But yea, you'll grow out of it.

Good luck man!

[blinkdude821]

Thank you! It really does mean a lot, I've been looking for somewhere to get this out and I've been a "guest" on this site for awhile and finally decided to join.

But really thanks again.

[imcool_17]

its probably your horomones trying to figure out what they feel about someone, if that makes sense

[Kuervo]

i feel the exact same way here, its really annoying huh. attracted to girls but not aroused. not attracted to guys but do get aroused. very complicated here. damn hormones loljust wait a lil longer and they will finallly settle and yhhhh

[gooog34]

I think everyone goes into this phase to some degree. It's normal to be curious so don't jump to conclusions :)

[LordOfTheToaster]

I think everyone goes into this phase to some degree. It's normal to be curious so don't jump to conclusions :)

He's right. I'm going through my "curious" phase now. I'm aroused by some gay stuff, but I know I'm straight, and so do you! Relax, this phase will pass. :D

[blinkdude821]

Thanks everyone for your responses. Does anyone ever feel like nervous about having sex or being in a sexual situation with a gal? Sometimes I think that's what turns me off.. that I can never picture it happening.

[jesusfreak77]

yea man! its prob. just ur hormones

[foxtrot]

You sound just like me at the moment. Send me a message if you want to talk...

[Inconvenience]

u are curious, which means u're on ur road to become gay bi or anythin like this.
so my advise, try to focus on girls. i understand it's gonna be hard, as realizing that men attract u more, but things wont be happening if u dont make this interests develop in u.

lead straight life, if u really wanna be straight, and try not to think about man. it's not normal thinkin about guys as people on this forum use to say.

trust me, and u win ;)

[ray8806]

u are curious, which means u're on ur road to become gay bi or anythin like this.
so my advise, try to focus on girls. i understand it's gonna be hard, as realizing that men attract u more, but things wont be happening if u dont make this interests develop in u.

lead straight life, if u really wanna be straight, and try not to think about man. it's not normal thinkin about guys as people on this forum use to say.

trust me, and u win ;)

Wow....just because he is a bit curious doesn't mean he's turning gay. This post wasn't fit for this thread.

[zcornett]

Not sure about the HOCD. You don't have to be gay, you can be bi. It is most likely curiosity, don't worry about it. Just be comfortable with who you are and have fun. You will come to know who you really are in the future. good luck. If you have any other questions or just want to talk PM me.

[Yahyahyah]

hmmm i know what you mean, but just go with the flow and whatever happens, happens.

[Tommy221]

It's the same with me. I was told it is perfectly normal ;)