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ktmay96
June 14th, 2010, 11:53 PM
Here we go... This is long and crazy but, please help.

So there's this "friend" of mine (we'll call her "A") who I really have disliked greatly for a while. Long story short, we became friends at the beginning of the year, but her novelty wore off fast and now I'm sorta done with her. HOWEVER, my family (my oh so wonderful family *rolls eyes*) decided it would be a brilliant idea to invited her on vacation, which we are leaving for this friday, and getting back in 10 days. After that I can be done with her. Now "A" was going out with this guy "B" who has also become one of my closer friends. They had gone out before and just got back together a month ago. But we have a minor (translation: major) issue: Today, "A" broke up with "B". "A" told me it was because he was being a dick (which was hard to believe, because he is one of the nicest guys I know). "B" told me it was because she said he was too prude. He said that he told her he didn't want to have sex and she got mad (mind you we are 14). I didn't know what really happened (though I was leaning towards "B" because "A" tends to lie...) until a little while ago when "A" text me 'B just called me a whore and said that wanting to have sex before I was married makes me a whore! >;( asshole!!" So that means they did argue about sex, so that means "B" is telling the truth, so turns out "A"'s a lying bitch... shocker. I dont particularly approve of what he said to her, but she isn't exactly the nicest person either, so she kinda deserves it. She's a bit of a bitch. In fact, he sent me forwards of what she said. Which were mean, but didn't surprised me cuz thats the way she normally acts. Anyway, I've been talking to "B" and a few minutes ago he said "I like you a lot." I flipped. I kinda liked him a bit, he's a nice guy, but I wasn't really sure.... (damn hormones). I asked him if he meant in a friend sorta way... And he said that he wasn't really sure if he liked me. He liked me but he didn't. So we were on the same page. The problem is the whole break up thing with "A". Now if "A" and I were actually friends, I wouldn't like him because she is my friend and I'm wouldn't go out with a friends ex who was mean. But she ISNT my friend. But I don't want to create drama with us... I just don't know what to do. Help?

Scarface
June 15th, 2010, 01:41 AM
The facts are though, if you find out that you like him and he likes you then you should go for it. Don't do it out of spite though. She does sound like kind of a bitch. What I would do is I would start talking more to "B" and getting closer to him.

If he ends up asking you out go for it. Even though she may make a big deal out of it he is not her boyfriend anymore, nor your friend. I don't think it would be a bad idea. I hope things work out for you, if you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here VM me anytime.

The Batman
June 15th, 2010, 02:16 AM
If they just broke up you need to wait. It doesn't matter if you're friends with her or not, but getting someone off the rebound like that can end in disaster. Just wait a week or two so that he can clear his head some and if he really does like you and want to date you then you should go for it. You should tell her though because even if you aren't friends she still thinks you are and that could really hurt her. Even if you think she deserves it, no one really does so it's better to let her know that he likes you and you like him than her finding out some other way and it turns into something worse.