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myskias
June 14th, 2010, 11:01 PM
i always thought i was bipolar. because il go a week of happy and a week of gnarly depression. well im not sure if thats the case anymore.

i was in an amazing mood and then my mom randomly comes downstairs crying because shes so stressed out about money and shit. and she says all she wants to do is give us (me and my 2 bros) everything that we want and to make us happy. and its stressing her out and making her all.. annoying. i hate it when people do things for me. especially the way shes feeling. she feels obligated to do all this random shit for me and i dont even need it. why cant people just let me be. i hate it

I dont even know what the hell im talking about, something always triggers this god damn depression and it comes back. until something triggers the happiness again. so damn annoying..

Scarface
June 15th, 2010, 02:01 AM
I know how that is you just want people to leave you alone and in peace. The fact is however that your mom really obviously cares about both of you and wants both of you to be happy even through these hard times. I know how mood swings can just be a pain in the ass how one moment you can be happy and all is well then the next minute you want to rip someones head off and hand it to them.

I know how all the stress can just get very overwhelming especially seeing a parental figure in distress it can very troublesome. If you find that her "random" purchase of things gets to you then maybe you should have a sit down with her and calmly explain that you're happy with or without the material possessions. Just explain to her that you're here for her if she needs someone to talk to, be there for your mom. Financial situations can sometimes put a strain on a family don't let that happen.

When you feel like your mood is changing just stop what you're doing and try to find what is making you feel this way. Breathe and try to stay calm, it always helps me. I hope things get better for you, if you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here PM/VM me anytime.

Sith Lord 13
June 15th, 2010, 02:03 AM
I know exactly what your talking about, although my depressive states don't even need to be triggered, they just come whenever the hell they feel like. Pretty much the only thing I can think of is to find ways to trigger your happy state. Find a way to control your own moods, even if that means, say, carrying around an iPod at all times, because music helps regulate your emotions. Find the things that work for you.

Kaya
June 15th, 2010, 08:05 AM
Well, you know she only does it because she cares about you. Why not sit her down and tell her how you feel?

myskias
June 15th, 2010, 10:52 PM
haha thanks guys :) you guys are awesome. and btw i do carry an ipod around with me everywhere i go. haha music saves me whenever i want to be alone :)

Aspiringanonymous
June 16th, 2010, 05:34 PM
I dont even know what the hell im talking about, something always triggers this god damn depression and it comes back. until something triggers the happiness again. so damn annoying..
It is definitely annoying, and a depressing awareness to have, for that matter, as it seems to suggest that one is powerless against the influences of the external environment. To some extent, that is true, for we are shaped by the world around us - but not entirely.

You have the power to determine your approach towards situations in the external world. Do you let triggers and reactionary emotions to dictate your experiences, or would you want to assert some form of independence, no matter how big or small? It is very difficult to control emotions, but much less so with thoughts. From every experience there is insight to be gained, and lessons learned. Why is this situation a trigger? What does that tell me about myself, my tendencies, and values? We become stronger in standing up from each fall; how specifically does this contribute?

Personally, somewhere along the way of maintaining rational thought, the irrational emotions will start to seem absurd and senseless - and the power lost is thus gained back.

Counter emotional chaos with calm whenever possible, rather than attempting to seek out some form of emotional high, for that too is a chaos of equal intensity. Fluctuating between extremes, as I'm sure you know, is dangerously draining.

Take care hun. :hug3:

myskias
June 18th, 2010, 01:25 AM
hmm makes alot of sense. everything happens for a reason basically. il remember that.

by the way, i love how intelligent you are, its fun to read the way you phrase things xD