Techcompu2
June 14th, 2010, 10:09 PM
before I start, I will say: I am a 17y/o gay male, and sorry if this is long. Also sorry for how unorganized it may be, I am just typing it as I think of it, and this is a good example of how my mind works.
ok so I have a situation: seeing as it is the end of the school year, I kinda want to come out to someone. thing is, that the person I would want to come out to (I will call him T), is one of my best friends, a crush of mine (I wasn't even thinking of telling him that yet), and I keep getting mixed signals on how he feels about LGBTQ people.
Before I go on, I want to say that I am not exactly popular at school, therefore, I really don't want/need to lose him as a friend. I have actually thought about how much I would hate losing him as a friend.
T and another one of my friends, M, have both been over to my house before, one of those times, the TV in the living room was on the show Clean House. T pointed out to M that he thought the designer on the show was gay, which is true. I used this as a little test by saying that I had seen pictures of the designer and his boyfriend together online. T reacted negatively to this by muttering something about it being a bit wrong. Other than this, I don't think I have heard him say much else anti-gay (except when he heard Lily Allen's Fuck You. he laughed at the 'so you think it's not ok to be gay' line).
Now I know M is not very LGBTQ friendly, but seeing as I have not known him as long as I have T, I don't care as much.
This year in school, when T or M need favors, I have been able to help them each time, but if I do come out, I don't want that to be the only thing that would keep the friendship alive, I would want them to truly not care about my sexuality.
ok so I guess I want to come out to T or M but I am not sure anymore. Yet again, I am sorry for length, and organization. As I said this is how my mind works, so I think that may be why I can't decide who to come out to and when. I am almost not sure if this is asking for advice, or just ranting/attempting to clear my mind. Anyway, any advice is helpful.
Almost forgot: yes i know the 'If they are a true friend they won't care' and 'I have to make the final choice' stuff. problem is that the voice in my head that says those things, is a bit quieter than the other voices in my head.
ok so I have a situation: seeing as it is the end of the school year, I kinda want to come out to someone. thing is, that the person I would want to come out to (I will call him T), is one of my best friends, a crush of mine (I wasn't even thinking of telling him that yet), and I keep getting mixed signals on how he feels about LGBTQ people.
Before I go on, I want to say that I am not exactly popular at school, therefore, I really don't want/need to lose him as a friend. I have actually thought about how much I would hate losing him as a friend.
T and another one of my friends, M, have both been over to my house before, one of those times, the TV in the living room was on the show Clean House. T pointed out to M that he thought the designer on the show was gay, which is true. I used this as a little test by saying that I had seen pictures of the designer and his boyfriend together online. T reacted negatively to this by muttering something about it being a bit wrong. Other than this, I don't think I have heard him say much else anti-gay (except when he heard Lily Allen's Fuck You. he laughed at the 'so you think it's not ok to be gay' line).
Now I know M is not very LGBTQ friendly, but seeing as I have not known him as long as I have T, I don't care as much.
This year in school, when T or M need favors, I have been able to help them each time, but if I do come out, I don't want that to be the only thing that would keep the friendship alive, I would want them to truly not care about my sexuality.
ok so I guess I want to come out to T or M but I am not sure anymore. Yet again, I am sorry for length, and organization. As I said this is how my mind works, so I think that may be why I can't decide who to come out to and when. I am almost not sure if this is asking for advice, or just ranting/attempting to clear my mind. Anyway, any advice is helpful.
Almost forgot: yes i know the 'If they are a true friend they won't care' and 'I have to make the final choice' stuff. problem is that the voice in my head that says those things, is a bit quieter than the other voices in my head.