Is my friend bi?

[jon25red]

Around 3months ago me and my best friend were watching a movie he tried to hold my hand, at first i took my hand away and he garbed it back and held on to my hand tight so i couldn't take my hand away. As i was pulling my hand away he said its ok... After 20sec (ish) of me trying to get away i stop. Around the 1min mark he released my hand and we didn't say one thing after. I don't know what to think hes gay because he said no homo when he was holding my hand but yea.. lol

He did like playing hand games like tum war and stuff, but he stopped a little after that.
I guess we sit close to each other, close enough that my mom asked why we were so close

The first question he asked me when he meet me was if i was gay... i said no because of the people around me (don't wana say im gay if im just curious)
But if he asks now i want to tell the truth. (im bi (mostly gay))
I asked him if he was gay but he said no.

We're still best friends, but i get so sad when he picks someone over me. I don't know if thats just a friend thing or if im liking him a lot. Like if he were to hand out with someone all day (act like there best friend and leave me to be by myself) ill be extremity sad. (ive talked to him about it) and days in a row and i would cry. And if i give someone more attention then him he gets quiet and then his mood changes and doesn't want to talk to anyone. Like if he goes outside or on a walk because of that ill go with him because i know something is wrong and hes my best friend. He acts rude and says things like why are you here. I know he wants me around because he told me when that happens he gets quiet and doesn't want to talk to people, and told me thank you for being there. I would never put someone over him because thats the type of friend i am. I couldn't think about treating him how he some times treats me around other people (just about ignores me (depends who)) because if i ignored him he would just run off and i would need to run after him to make sure everything is alright.

idk if the age makes a difference but we were 16

So do you think hes bi/ gay? or was he just curious?

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[xXWh1t3_J3sUsXx]

well to me it sounds like he is gay not so bi but u never know he just might be a little girly ?

[Kaius]

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[CaliKid24]

That's exactly how me and my old best friend were. Except he was completely straight. I'm bi. So from experience I kno that he is most likely bi or gay and he wants to hide it because he is maybe ashamed of being bi? If he does anything like that again ask him if he's bi or gay. Tell him it doesn't matter to u and that u won't tell anyone. The most important thing for him to know is that he can trust you with his secrets. PM me if u need anymore advice because u just described me and my old best friends relationship.

[CaliKid24]

Another thing is does he stare at u?

[jon25red]

Yea we look over at each other, but when the other looks we look away. And if we cross eyes we say hi and smile or laugh

[CaliKid24]

Then yea I'm like 99.99999% sure he's bi. Does he show any interest in girls? Like serious interest?

[jon25red]

explain "serious interest" lol

He had a gf and i knew he loved her if your saying that...

[CaliKid24]

Ok then yea he's most likely bi.

[jon25red]

aww, do you think he would do another thing? So if he douse anything i should jump on it and ask him or should i let him tell me? how did you know about your friend? what different things did he do?

[CaliKid24]

Well the difference between me and my friend is that I missed a lot of oppurtunitys to ask him and now were not friends anymore. But that's a whole different complicated story. And yea if hes bi then he will definetly try something. Try sitting close to him again or invite him over to stay the night. If he tries anything then ask him. But BE SIRE he knows he can trust u and that u won't say anything. If he tells u that he is than explain to him how u feel. Make sure u don't pressure him into telling u though,

[Powerline]

From what I can tell it definitely sounds like he is Bi

[jon25red]

well he hasent done anything in a wile. (idk could be from a week to 3) we hang out with each other just about 6out of 7days of the week, or all of the days. and he always stays at my house, and i go over his house too.. but mine is bigger so we stay here more.

[CaliKid24]

Oh. Well don't make it obvious that u want him to try something on u. Just be the same. Try to get him to hold ur hand or something again. And a week really isn't that long.

[CaliKid24]

And until he does anything let him kno that u can trust him.

[jon25red]

we'll more like 2-3weeks, and i went somewhere with his last week and i kinda reached by him to get the bud (yes we smoke) and i thought it was in his hand, so i reached over to get it but it wasent in his hand. so for a 1/2 of a sec it looked like we held hands, he jumped and nudged me away right as i kinda held his hand (i dident mean too) idk if he was pushing me away because we seen 2people we meet walking down to us... or if he pushed me away because it was something gay... if i think about it i havent done 1thing but that...

[CaliKid24]

Umm yea idk. I still think he's bi. And were u with other friends when u were guna smoke?

[jon25red]

We finshed somkeing with a group of people we meet a day earlier, then we jumped on the bus. seen them on the bus. got off b4 them. then my he was complaining on the smell and he was older and my mom wasent in that state. (i went with him and his famly somewhere) and i went to get it from him and i thought it was in his hand, but it wasent. when he puched me away he dident say wtf? or anything. he said its [name] and [name].

[CaliKid24]

Then he wasn't bothered by u grabbing his hand, but he doesn't want people to see it. I really think that he wants to secretly have a relationship with u so I would definetly bring it up the next time he does anything like this. Do u trust him enough to tell him how u feel? And just wondering how does he feel about gay people?

[jon25red]

idk i can see him do the hole hold hand thing for a test... :/ i do trust him, i just dont know how he will react about it. One time my friend left a picture in my room and the homophobic one found it and told him and he was all like "We need to have a talk.." i ended up finding out that they did leave it in my room. and he found out and said he dident freek out, my homophobic friend did. He use to say he dident like homos arround friends but i he said he dusent care to me- he duse but has nothing vs them

[CaliKid24]

A test? What do you mean? And what was the picture of? Well how would ur friend(the non homophobic one) react if he found out ur bi/gay?? Or do u not know?

[jon25red]

The homophobic found the picture.. it was a normal picture and he showed my bestfriend. As they were coming back upstairs my best friend said "Jjoonnn We Need To Have A Talk !" in a laugh like voice. They both asked me and i said no, and i was pasting my shelf back and forth in my room trying to think how it got in my room. I ended up texting the person and they said they left it. After my bestfriend found out what he said what a relief,
The next day we seen the person (who left there picture) with out the homophobic and he asked why they were giveing me a hard time about it (hes very nice, my last other bestfriend) and my bestfriend said that the homophobic one was giveing me a hard time, not him. And said that the homophobic was the one who freeked out.

[CaliKid24]

Oh. Well if anything ends up happening make sure ur homophobic friend doesn't find out.

[janthem]

he sounds like he's either bi or really curious

[cole]

sounds like he might be

[zcornett]

You won't know unless you ask him. It sounds to me like he either likes you as a bf or you guys are just really close friends. Just get alone and talk to him about it and just tell him how you feel. If you have any questions or just want to talk PM me. But do PM me and tell me how it turns out

[aaapug2]

yea i'm pretty sure he is bi, or str8 with some bi mixed in...just bring it up, ask if he likes you more than just a friend...make a move on him? lol never hurts to try plus he's the one who grabbed your hand not the other way around so something must be up with him and you :) you know my msn so i can give u feed back for sure ;) but yea i think he likes u more than just a friend

[Fruit_Tart.]

woah! very complicating... but your story... sorta floppsy... i dont really get much of it... i sorta know how youre feeling. but if you really want to find out about your friend then invite him on a day that a couple of your friends can hang out and have some smokes i guess??? and try and invite the friends he doesn't much hang out with and is more willing to stay with you. jus the two of you. alone. no one really nearby. and jus relax and chill out together. grab some smokes and jus talk. if he doesn't like that idea and ends up leaving then try something that you know will bring him back. lol. but jus try and get him to his relaxing and more conversational tone of mood that way you guys can jus talk. you can ask him about the things hes been up to and jus lead it up to your desirable questions. if hes not that kinda talkative person then... i dunno... sorry for wasting your time. bleh. :/ but the best of luck to you! :D hope you uhhh get your man or boy! lol. and hope everything goes out the way you want them to go... :) ^_^ i'll be crossing my fingers for you!