I am dating 4 people.

[Rawr_its_Jake]

Well, I am dating 4 people, like I know "Omg, that nika' is cheatin". Well, today I slipped up, and well, said I was hanging out with my girlfirend, to one of my other girlfriends. We went shopping, got her some stuff typical saturday. Well, after dropping her off back at her house, the girlfriend I slipped up to, finds out that I am dating her and two others. The four, and well now it's a huge cat fight they are all saying that eachother is lying and that I am theirs not one of the other three . I do not know how to end this before they all find out. FML I was thinking about just saying that I am dating all four and cheating, but that would mean no sex or even a relationship for awhile, so that route is banned. Any help?

[Ryhanna]

I'm not %100 sure this story is real at the moment... It hardly makes sense, but I'll offer advice just in case it is for real.

I say you quit being so dishonest to them and quite frankly, stop being so selfish. If you're really dating 4 girls at once (Which I find hard to believe.... just sayin'..) then you at least owe them the truth. If they all break up with you and you don't have sex or a relationship... we'll you kind of deserve it. If want sex that badly, you have a hand. If you want a relationship that badly, respect the women you're with.

Simple as that.

[Rawr_its_Jake]

It is real, sadly.
And well I don't want to do that, I clearly stated that................
Hand, no.
Respect, well................................. No comment

[Ryhanna]

Well Jake....
I'm sorry, but if you can't man up and tell them then it's only going to get worse. 4 people, man. You'll slip up eventually...

[Sith Lord 13]

Jake, you have two choices.

Own up to it now, or wait until these girls realize you were playing them.

If you go with the first, you'll be in deep shit with those girls.

If you go with the second, those girls will make sure every girl you could possibly meet in the foreseeable future knows what you did. Say good bye to your chances of getting laid for years. Literally.

[Hollywood]

So is it really all about sex to you?

Really, this is just insanity. Break up with them all. This is no way to live your life, no way to lead those poor girls on. Just end it now before it gets any worse. And don't do things like that again.

[1_21Guns]

If your going to treat girls like things that are only used for sex, expect to be slapped round the face, because frankly, its horrible. You have no choice but to end them all tbh, and the result is just the consequence of your actions. Simple. Have fun getting through life if you think you can behave like that tbh...

[Sage]

High fucking five, man. Four at one time? That's commendable. My advice is to have as much sex and fun with all of them as possible before breaking up with them all. It won't be easy, I know, but I think going without a lady (or several) for a while might be your best bet in this case. You're young, life is short, take what you can get and roll with it. Monogamy is overrated.

Also, you deserve rep. You're awesome.

Edit: Also, everyone here is being needlessly judgmental. So much for a help and advice community.

[Sith Lord 13]

Des,

Monogamy is not what's at issue here. It's dishonesty. Cheating is about violating trust. And while people are slow to forgive that violation, they'll go a little easier when you admit you've made a mistake, as opposed to trying to cover it up. If he was to date 10 women, I couldn't care less. My only thought is that it needs to be done in an ethical fashion. The girls need to know about each other. Then, hey, the more girls you get, the better it is for you.

[Eskimo]

Ii'm just going to say that you really aren't that smart thinking you can get away with dating four people and not having one of them know. Also that's very selfish, I mean cheating on her with one girl is bad enough, but 3?

[Sage]

I'd rather lie and get laid than be honest and not. At least while I'm a teenager.

[emt.Cam]

Deschain, you obviously have no respect for people. You need to grow up if you think that life is just a sex fest. If you think women are just out there for guys to get laid then you're dead wrong and I should probably come over there and kick the shit out of you a few times. We are offering advice for him because this is how it is. Dating 4 people at once, is wrong and if you didn't think you were going to get caught, well.. you obviously found otherwise. You let it happen by doing this to yourself and these poor girls in the first place. My suggestion is to man up and just tell them instead of digging yourself a deeper hole. I honestly never thought I'd see such a repulsive response on VT. Do yourself the favor of manning up and finding a new relationship, if you even consider what you have a relationship. To be honest, you're a disgrace -in my opinion-

Best Regards,
Cameron

[INFERNO]

You can try to apologize to all of them or none of them. If one of the girls wants to continue the relationship, then that probably will put you in the shitter with the other three. Either way, you're deep in the shitter and there's no clean way out for you.

Human-human relationships require one very important thing: both partners understand, respect and treat each other as a human being. When you treat each girl as a sex toy and not as a human being, then you will continue to get into these situations. It's nothing more than one-night stands because whenever you go with the girl, it seems the only intent and presumably result is sex, nothing more. Believe it or not, you can have a strong emotional relationship with a girl, not treat her as a sex toy yet still have plenty of sex, if it's still that much of a goal. The relationships where you don't treat them as humans don't last long at all for that reason (and others).

If you do want to continue with dating four or seven or 10 or 50 all at once as sex objects, then my advice is you pay very careful attention as to where you date them because girls like to talk about their relationships, especially when they fail. When you have many that fail for this reason, it begins to spread like wildfire so girls who you are not with may know you. If you're going to keep it up, my best advice is to watch yourself because either the girls or worse, when they form relations with some males who don't like what you've done also... to put it mildly, the odds are not in your favour.

If I were to date a girl who came off the relationship from someone like you and we discussed with the other ex-girlfriends and any of their boyfriends, I'm not one to go after others. I would not like you but I would not go after you as it's against my philosophy of life I live by. However, others may not be the same.

If you want to have emotional and sexual relations with several girls and date them, let's say one for each day, I see nothing wrong if they all know and everyone participates in a moral, legal, ethical and humane manner. I'll admit I am skeptical as to whether it would last long at all and cause a massive cat-fight later but this is the way I see it as acceptable.

[Obscene Eyedeas]

op banned, :locked: