All my suspicions about him were right

[Syvelocin]

I love my dad. I do. We get along incredibly, at least recently. But I had problems a bit ago when I was just diagnosed as depressed, when they weren't putting me on my mood stabalizers, so about a year ago. I found some suggestive files on an old computer we shared that led me to think he might watch porn, which bothers me more than it really should. I also had suspicions of him smoking, because he would have lighters in random places like his car or his jacket pocket. I passed off the files as more of viruses since I know that sort of thing can happen and I never had proof of him smoking.

Though when he was away in Las Vegas, I found a box of cigars in his office, and the history on our computer actually has porn sites. So everything I thought was true.

I feel betrayed. And I wonder if my mother knows about either. But not knowing that he at least smokes has lost my trust, let alone the fact that I can't look at him the same way I did before because of the porn. He feels like a different man.

I would appreciate some advice, luvvies... :(

[The Batman]

He's a guy, most guys look at porn it's nothing big and your mom probably does know. Just forget about it because it's not weird. Talk to him about the smoking though.

[Sith Lord 13]

Why is his looking at porn bothering you? I am asking a serious question. What about it bothers you?

As for smoking, talk to him about it. Just ask him point blank, do you smoke. If he says no, ask him about the cigars. See what he says.

[Syvelocin]

I know it shouldn't, I just for some reason see him differently. It's hard to explain, and my bipolar disorder makes everything a big deal o.O

I don't have too much courage to confront him about the smoking, I don't want to ruin anything, but even then the fact that he didn't tell me makes me mad. I know very well that my mother used to smoke, she's mentioned that loads of times, but being in the dark about my father for so long makes me anxious about losing him after we've just started getting along really well.

[Sith Lord 13]

Well, perhaps you should try to work on your issue with the porn. Talk to your therapist maybe?


Well, the smoking's your call. But if it really bothers you, better to deal with it than to let it fester. That's my opinion anyway.