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[xxorientalxportxx]

ok , so today my boyfriend and I jus had sex for the first time . we had safe sex, so no worries about that . I know for a fact that he used a condom but what i AM worried about is the fact that i didnt see him put it on . today was both of our first times having sex so im scared that he didnt put it on right . PLUS, afterwards he threw out the condom in the woods .. so im not sure whether or not it broke . he assured me that it did not .

im not sure whether he busted inside me or not , but i think he did .. twice . is that a bad thing ? please help !

:confused: :(

[chocolatepie]

im pretty sure that it is almost impossible to put a condom on incorrectly. but if u are worrying that it broke then you shud go and get the emergency contraceptive pill at your doctors

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

Ok ud know if it broke.... there would be a giant rip in it because rubber once theres a hole, tears easily... so it would be demolished... there wouldnt be a tiny tiny hole.... so i think its just being afraid... once a guy cums, hes done... so soon after he would take it out and take off the condom... so he wouldnt do it twice....

[xxorientalxportxx]

so there is no chance at all that the condom broke ?


and im not sure whether he did bust twice or not .. its jus he went really fast and then jus stopped afterwards two times .. :confused:

thanks to those who told/are telling me to go get a pill or whatever asap but theres no possible way that i could . my mother just wouldnt understand ..

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

He might have stopped because he didnt wanna blow it... how far appart were the stops? Im sure he was about to blow it then stopped, then went back to it, then stopped, then felt..... i cant prolong it any longer.... im sure he blew it fast if he stopped and went again.... but unless u saw a big rip. If it stayed in its normal shape.... its fine.... and if u cant communicate well and he didnt show u the condom.... ur communication skills need work

[xxorientalxportxx]

hmm im not really sure how far apart the stops were =/ sorry

the condom didnt have ANY big rips because he said so himself that it didnt , and i actually believe him about that . come on now , he doesnt want me pregnant either !

its not that he didnt show me .. the whole situation is complicated . we were about to get caught so he had to jump out the window . when he did .. he jus threw the condom away ..

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

Yeah dont worry bout it then... all u have to do is be serious with him and just say.... after u cummed, did u go more or pull out..... cause if he kept going... the cum he produced will act like a lube inside the condom more than ur lube so the condom will stay in place and the cum will leak out the back end of the condom and if he pushed in really hard... a few drops might have came out... which is why they say immediatly pull out soon after he cums

[xxorientalxportxx]

oh god , thats get me really worried .

i dont think he cummed though .. he`s 14 ? and i dont think he did .. im not sure . aghhhhh . and i dont think he went that far in .. lol or he couldnt atleast .

=/ judging from my situation do you think i could get pregnant ?

[Glasgow]

There is a possibility that you can get pregnant, and theres no point of havng sex if you cant cum so he most likely can cum. But he had a condom on, ur just thinking worst case

[xxorientalxportxx]

lol .. i know .. im just scared.

cuz i know my mother would kill me if she found out that i was pregnant . we dont even have enough money to get an abortion .

=/

[fdsgfg55465]

first off if you had safe sex the condom would not of broke and even then when you use a condom your only 80% protected... also it cant break twice.. if it brakes it broke it cant "broke" two times... you shouldn't be having sex if you don't even know how to protect yourself or at least make sure you are....

[fdsgfg55465]

if hes 14 he can probably cum i could cum when i was 12 and if you have reason to believe it broke or missed or something then you have a greater chance plus how old are you 14?

[Dante]

wait until the time of the month comes for you, then you'll be sure. It might be lkate because you just had sex and the female body tends to do that, but if you are really really worried go to a clinic...just to make sure?

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

Some clinics have free confidental preg tests

[hihius]

yo, baby.
Just tell ur mum.

[xxorientalxportxx]

my mom is really strict and she hates me .. she has told me straight to my face . she brings me down every chance she gets , she makes me feel bad for being me . NO WAY would she understand . she beat the crap out of me when she THOUGHT i was pregnant -- and i hadnt even had sex yet .

im scared though because i dont want to be different from anybody else . lots of people have sex the first time and thats that . no one i know goes to a clinic .. =/ . no one would take me anyways .

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

Well ill tell u this much... its prob nothing... ur safe.... if not... theres nothing u can do unless u tell ur mom... so id say let it slide and relax... if u get ur period... then u know for sure ur all set... no worries

[fdsgfg55465]

give it time and hope for the best

[Zazu]

I wouldnt be worried if i were you, you cant really put a condom on 'wrongly'. Also, the reason i would of thought he threw the condom into the woods because its not exactly the most pleasant of things to have a condom that you have ejaculated into hanging about in your pocket, so dont worry.

[mr_smite1]

First i wanna say tht it is possible 2 put a condom on incorrectly, if he put it on inside out, then u had sex then there is a chance that there was a 67% chance of not being safely, if he put it on inside out, then took it off and put it on the right way...u r screwed, cos sperm might be left on the outside (its microscopic) He prob just threw it into the woods due to not knowin where 2 put it, and he might not have shown u wehn he put it on cos he was embarressed :P

[xxorientalxportxx]

haha , thank you guys .. it makes me feel really assured .


while we were going at it , he never took the condom OFF so theres no way that he could have turned it inside out . i dont think my bf is THAT SLOW , putting on a condom is sometimes common sense right ?


the part that sucks about this whole situation is .. my period ended two days just before i had sex .. so now i actually have to wait about a month !

[fdsgfg55465]

no you can put it on wronf if you dont pintch the tip for room then when you cum it can come out the back

[Just...Will]

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