im at a loss for what to do...

[NextToNormal]

my best friend and i hooked up at the end of the semester and then things got really bad between us. i got kicked out of her house (which is 3 hours away from mine) and we havent spoken since the night i was kicked out. that was over a month ago. her sister said some things to me along the lines of she never wanted me to speak to her again because i ruined her life and a bunch of other stuff, including that she would try to have me arrested for harrassment if i did contact them at all.
my best friends dad died a couple of days ago. the right thing to do would be to send a card to the family expressing my sympathy because i truly am sorry that he died. would it be appropriate to send the card given what her sister said to me or should i just leave it alone and apologize to my best friend later on when things are a lot better between us?

[steve1234]

I think this needs to go under 'friends and family'.

This is quite a difficult subject. Maybe you shouldn't send the card, seeing as she is going to call the police if you go and see her again. But, she may not have meant it as she is grieving. When people are grieving, they often take it out on the people that care for them. If you send the card, she may think that you still care even after she kicked you out of her house, and possibly make the friendship stronger.

Maybe you could say why she kicked you out, as that may make it easier for us to give you advice. :)

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just to clarify...this fight thing happened a month ago. her died just died 2 days ago.

but i got kicked out because she and i hooked up at the end of the semester. her sister, who is an overprotective and controlling and manipulative bitch found out and thats why i got kicked out. she said that i forced her sister to do stuff with me which is BS. why am i going to force my best friend to do something like that? but yeah...thats why

[JunkBondTrader]

Wait, was it her personally who said these things or just her sister? I don't know the whole situation so I can't comment but she probably wants to hear from you.

Is there any way you can contact her without her sister knowing? Via facebook or something?

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it was her sister who said these things to me. i dont even know if she knows what all her sister said to me that night.
ive tried AIM, facebook, email and i get nothing from her. so idk if she really wants to talk to me or not.