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Aaron42
June 6th, 2010, 11:08 PM
All right so yesterday my best friend came out of the closet, and he was one the people I least expected to be gay. I do t really know how to act around him now, or how to confront him, I feel slightly attracted to him now. Any suggestions?

Btw he doesn't know that I'm bi/gay.

zachyman
June 6th, 2010, 11:11 PM
Ooh dang..
That's gotta be awkward. Lol.
How long have you known him?

Sandlapper50
June 6th, 2010, 11:11 PM
i'd just talk to him if i were you, let him know how you feel...he should understand

Dylan303
June 6th, 2010, 11:12 PM
get to know him a little bit better. ;) letting him know that youre bi/gay might help.

goldbiospark
June 6th, 2010, 11:13 PM
Id still be the way you have always been with him.

Aaron42
June 6th, 2010, 11:16 PM
Towards Ebonyandirvory: i've known him about 4-5years

zachyman
June 6th, 2010, 11:18 PM
Yeah, I agree with the rest of the guys.
Just act like you have and let him know if you have feelings for him(:
Simple as 1 2 3 :D

cokeboy
June 6th, 2010, 11:26 PM
hey he came out of the closet and trusted and told u
then id say the best thing u can do is tell him ho u
feel towards him im pretty sure hes gonna be ok with it

goldbiospark
June 6th, 2010, 11:35 PM
Also it depends if he "hits on you"

CaliKid24
June 6th, 2010, 11:36 PM
Umm don't be any different with him. Acnowledge the fact he's gay, like don't ignore it. But don't make a big deal. I came out to my friend and that's kinda how I wanted my best friend to react. And I only told him becuz I was attracted to him so he might be attracted to you? Pm me if u need more advice.

Iron Man
June 6th, 2010, 11:41 PM
What I would do if I was in your shoes is I would just continue with your friendship and see where it goes from there. He might even be attracted to you, who knows? Only time will tell.

MisterE
June 19th, 2010, 06:43 PM
i wouldnt act any different around him, if his sexuality concernes u, probably dont say anything and keep your distance, if hes doing somthing towards you that you dont like let him know,

bidude94
June 19th, 2010, 06:51 PM
Well I would suggest that now since he had enough trust in every one to come out, you should come out as well. Who knows?, it could be a good thing, What if he is attracted to you?

imcool_17
June 19th, 2010, 07:41 PM
well, uh...geez thats awkward, i bet you can feel the awkwardness...ha sorry anyways you can maybe just tell him when you guys are by yourself and you never kno, one thing may lead to another

LordOfTheToaster
June 19th, 2010, 09:21 PM
Act the same, unless you want to come out of the closet to him, too. I'd only do this if you think he might like you. If you aren't sure, do the same stuff you usually do with him and analyze.

TheUnknown12345
June 19th, 2010, 11:52 PM
I agree with the other guys. It's a lot when you come out to family and friends, but if they really care about you they should accept you. You should just tell him that you trust him like he trusts you and let him know. You never know what could happen. Lol
Good Luck :D

tyrec97
June 20th, 2010, 05:59 PM
me and my friend are bi. try letting him know ur bi and like seem more into him and stuff.thats what i did to my friend and we do stuff all the time

Muscleteen92
June 20th, 2010, 10:46 PM
I say let him kno ur bi unless ur not ready to come out yet, but don't change the way u act around him

Wadehampton
June 20th, 2010, 11:38 PM
Tell him, if you guys have been friends that long I am sure he has to have some sort of feelings for you.

CantBeTamed
June 21st, 2010, 01:49 AM
i wouldnt let him coming out change your friendship and since he told you about him maybe you should tell him about you who knows he could feel the same way good luck

OhMightyLion
June 25th, 2010, 03:56 PM
Tell him you are too..if he trust you enough to tell you that he is gay you cna probably do the same?

jameshotti12boy
June 25th, 2010, 05:26 PM
Just treat him like u always have its no different then before dont make a big deal about it

oreolover
June 27th, 2010, 02:57 PM
haha u should act fine around him cuz he came out to u cuz hes comfortable around u and he trusts you. he is the exact same guy except that hes attracted to guys. if ur attracted to him u should come out to him and tell him how u feel about him. who knows maybe he likes u too. hope this helps dude

theK
June 27th, 2010, 04:47 PM
just act like how you did b4. hes the same person after all.

Huskyboy132
June 27th, 2010, 06:02 PM
Dude. He shared his secret with you. He trusts you. Why dont you just tell him you're bi/gay?

Trackstar29
July 5th, 2010, 03:07 PM
Just act the same?