Would like some advice about friends.

[Mikee]

Im in kind of an odd situation. Im 18 and go to a fairly large high school. I think its about 1000 kids per class, but could be more or less im not too sure. Now Im probably one of the nicest guys in my class. I am friendly with everyone, and i mean EVERYONE. This includes all of the popular kids to the kids that may seem a bit different to some people. I could walk up to just about anyone and start a conversation.

In school, I always hang out with the popular kids, the kids that party all the time on the weekends. And I fit in just fine around them, its not really awkward or anything. The problem is that outside of school is when they all party, drink, and smoke. However, this isnt really me. And they know that im straight-edge and dont drink and smoke, but they are my friends and they dont care. Though, I dont really hang out with them outside of school just because I dont want to get involved with it.

And this is where the problems lies. Im friends with them in school, but never hang out with them outside of school. I havent hung out with my friends since maybe 8th grade. Im in 11th now. Id like to chill with them sometime but want to do something thats fun but not...stirring too much trouble i guess is the best way to put it.

Bottom line is:
I'd like to get advice about how to signal to my friends that I feel like doin something. I would text them but the conversation would go somethin like this.

Me: "Yo dude wanna do somethin?"
Him: "Uhh okay, like what."
Me: "idk just hang out or somethin."

and since its been 4 years since i last hung out with them it would be kinda awkward and neither of us would no what to do.



Well thanks for reading the wall of text. Tryin to get out as much info as needed without trying to write a book.

anyways i can provide more info if needed, would appreciate any advice.
Thanks,
Mike

[Eskimo]

whenever I want to hang out with someone I'm just like "uuugh i have nothing to do this weekend" and they usually offer, but yeah go with a group of people to a movie, thats always a winner.

[Art_dude]

Why can't you hang out with them? I'm straight edge too - I still hang out with my friends who smoke and drink: I just don't participate. I know it sucks to be around that kind of environment if you're not someone who participates in such things, but the benefit of being in your friend's company outweighs not doing anything with them. If they try to reel you into peer pressure you just say, 'no thanks' or 'nah, I don't drink but thanks anyway.'

[janthem]

you can either hang out with them and feel miserable since you dont like waat they are doing or you can hang out in a mutual hang out where everyone has fun! I would maybe offer like going to someplace like the movies or the bowling alley where you can party but have wholesome fun. You can offer this invitation through a text like what you said before or you can maybe offer the invitation at like the lunch table. while sitting around, just be like "hey u guys want to go to ____...." and this could help improve your friendship. also if that doesnt work you can pull them to the side and explain to them that you don't really support what they do on the weekends and that you not wanting to be around them then is really hurting you guys' friendship! hope i helped

[CaliKid24]

If there cool with u being edge than they will probably be willing to just hangout and not do that stuff. Maybe u should go to a party with them and just not do any drugs. And the people above me are right. Invite them somewhere.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I know what you feel like with the smoking but drinking i love my drink xD but with the smoking I went round a mate of a mates house and we were in a fairly small room with 7 other people and they were all smoking, i was the only none smoker -_- they offered me some of whatever they were smoking and I said nahh i'm alright, and they left it. They didn't mind I wasn't smoking.And I didn't really mind them smoking, as I've grown up around it. But my point is that you can still get along with mates even if you don't enjoy doing their "activites".

Like other people have said, ask them to go the movies, or bowling, or even ice-skating, I dont know, some fun.

I hope this helps you, and isn't just some random babble :P