ill keep this short.

[Strength]

ill cut to the chase. ive broken up with my gf for cheating on me several times. she keeps telling me shes changing this time for good and wont do it again and she loves me etc i beleive her with that cus shes been cutting her self crying non stop begging for me back she even followed me home crying after i broke up with her begging me to come back so i let her sleep over cus i wasnt gonna leave her out in the cold cus she refused to go home so she slept. i was still angry and sticking to my guns so i rolled away from her in the bed and she keept holding me and hugging me so i got up and moved to the other bedroom then she followed me there too and then i moved back to my room and she followed me again. eventually i had enough and gave in and let her hug me. then we started touching and rubbing and holding hands and i couldnt control myself and we had sex for ages and then she slept the night and went home in the morning.

thats the back story.

my issue is im fucking torn over this i know i should stick to my guns and not get back with her but i miss her already and love her i dont know what to do i need advice.


shes talking to me right now on facebook please anyone with advice give, ill take anything.

[Hanyo]

Well, I wouldn't make it easy for her. Tell her you're still not sure if you want her back, because its still hard to trust her, which it is isn't it?

Then, ask her to explain in detail why she cheated on you, and make her go over every step of the thought process on each of the occasions that she cheated. Make some notes if you need to and analyze it carefully by yourself when you have time, and then later ask her to clear up details that don't make any sense.

Then, ask her how she can guarantee her loyalty, and how you could possibly trust her again after she had betrayed you so many times. If you feel like it, take her back, if not, don't...

In my humble opinion though, she's already proven that she doesn't know what loyalty is. So I would recommend you to find someone better. Yes, you miss her now, but it will be better in the long run if you separate yourself now from someone who will continue to hurt you. Hope that somehow helps.

[Strength]

Well, I wouldn't make it easy for her. Tell her you're still not sure if you want her back, because its still hard to trust her, which it is isn't it?

Then, ask her to explain in detail why she cheated on you, and make her go over every step of the thought process on each of the occasions that she cheated. Make some notes if you need to and analyze it carefully by yourself when you have time, and then later ask her to clear up details that don't make any sense.

Then, ask her how she can guarantee her loyalty, and how you could possibly trust her again after she had betrayed you so many times. If you feel like it, take her back, if not, don't...

In my humble opinion though, she's already proven that she doesn't know what loyalty is. So I would recommend you to find someone better. Yes, you miss her now, but it will be better in the long run if you separate yourself now from someone who will continue to hurt you. Hope that somehow helps.


thats pretty much what ive been doing mate. we think alike :P but seriously you're probably right i just need some comforting words or words of wisdom/experience as shes my first ever girlfriend and we where/are going out for 6months

[Eskimo]

It sounds like she just wants you for sex, I would just tell her to leave.

[Strength]

It sounds like she just wants you for sex, I would just tell her to leave.

how do you figure?

[xRAPiiDG4MERx]

if you cant help yourself to have sex, you must love her. If you saw her kissing another guy what would you do? would you hit the guy or have a go at her? if you would hit the guy, it means you love her. If you shout at her or something, move on to some1 else. this is hypothetical btw. not saying it will happen. just something for you to think about what you would do if it did happen. i hope it works out m8 :)

[Contra]

If she has cheated on you several times, she isn't worthwhile. That's my opinion. Multiple betrayal is something you can't forgive. What guarantees you she won't cheat on you again? Sometimes you have to make choices, so I wouldn't take her back, but that's really up to you.
Tell her you don't want anything with her and ignore her completely. And when I mean completely, I mean completely, like next time leave her out in the cold. She will eventually have to let go, right?

Good luck! :)

[Strength]

if you cant help yourself to have sex, you must love her. If you saw her kissing another guy what would you do? would you hit the guy or have a go at her? if you would hit the guy, it means you love her. If you shout at her or something, move on to some1 else. this is hypothetical btw. not saying it will happen. just something for you to think about what you would do if it did happen. i hope it works out m8 :)

i cant help myself with sex, that is true. if i saw a guy kiss her i'd probly go ape shit at both of them. but feel bad afterward having a go at her.

[Strength]

If she has cheated on you several times, she isn't worthwhile. That's my opinion. Multiple betrayal is something you can't forgive. What guarantees you she won't cheat on you again? Sometimes you have to make choices, so I wouldn't take her back, but that's really up to you.
Tell her you don't want anything with her and ignore her completely. And when I mean completely, I mean completely, like next time leave her out in the cold. She will eventually have to let go, right?

Good luck! :)

well shes crying in tears swearing on her dads life (only person in her family she cares about, i know thats true) and yeah she seemd destroyed when i broke up with her. and so happy when i sort of took her back. i dont know anymore, this is killing me. theres another girl too i sort of like cus shes helping me get through this and she really likes me too but ive told her i broke up with my gf but im still seeing her :/ i like this other girl but i have heaps of history with my gf and its making me so sad the thought of not having her in my life :( :( :(


i love her so much but i have feelings for the other person and my gf has hurt me sooo many times. fuck i hate this.

[zoom zoom]

well if she has cheated on you some many times. i think you shouldnt take her back. if you loved her, and she said that she loved you, and then just went behind your back to another guy.... i dont think thats love. if it was me i wouldnt take her back. A man can take some much, and she pushed you over that point the first cheat. Well you think. this one is up to you, and if you want to give her up or not. GL bud

[Strength]

well if she has cheated on you some many times. i think you shouldnt take her back. if you loved her, and she said that she loved you, and then just went behind your back to another guy.... i dont think thats love. if it was me i wouldnt take her back. A man can take some much, and she pushed you over that point the first cheat. Well you think. this one is up to you, and if you want to give her up or not. GL bud

thanks man.

im just hell confused atm cus i like the other girl but i got history with my gf sigh

[zoom zoom]

yeah i can understand that one. you think about letting her go, but if you think about it, you feel more attached to her, and you think what would happen if you do end it, and what would you do with out her. so i kinda get what you are going through

[Strength]

yeah i can understand that one. you think about letting her go, but if you think about it, you feel more attached to her, and you think what would happen if you do end it, and what would you do with out her. so i kinda get what you are going through

it's the worst feeling ever....

here is the old thread.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=72816

[The Madness.]

You have to look at the postives and negatives.
The positives, she could stop hurting herself, and if you really love her you will be happy.
The negatives, there's always a possibility she is going to cheat again, and it seems she's more in for the lust.

Honestly, you should probably move on. But that's in my opinion.

[swimfreak85]

i think shes lieing to u and all the people shes cheated on..dont stay with her

[Hatsune Miku]

If she cheated on you so many times she isn't worth it. Who knows, she could cheat again. If you really loved you she wouldn't have cheated at all. If you really want to get back together with her then talk to her about it. Talk to her about all the times shes cheated and make sure she doesn't do it again, and be cautious that she doesn't. But really you should find someone else. You can find someone so much better. Someone who wont cheat and will stick by your side. If you're not going to get back together then tell her that, be easy on her. Explain to her why you don't want to get back together again. Just talk about it. Maybe even help her find someone else.

Good luck.

[Strength]

If she cheated on you so many times she isn't worth it. Who knows, she could cheat again. If you really loved you she wouldn't have cheated at all. If you really want to get back together with her then talk to her about it. Talk to her about all the times shes cheated and make sure she doesn't do it again, and be cautious that she doesn't. But really you should find someone else. You can find someone so much better. Someone who wont cheat and will stick by your side. If you're not going to get back together then tell her that, be easy on her. Explain to her why you don't want to get back together again. Just talk about it. Maybe even help her find someone else.

Good luck.

i wont be able to find anyone else. i know everyone says that but if you knew me personally, you would agree...