Dad's problem

[Jess]

My parents don't show affection towards each other like other people do. they tend to get into a lot of arguments, sometimes over little stuff. sometimes it starts as Mom yelling, and Dad yelling why are you yelling and then the arguments start. It's usually something my dad does that causes these arguments. For example, when we found out we had to move, Mom got really angry and an argument started. as I said before, sometimes it's over little stuff, like stupid things. A couple times Dad went too far and actually threw stuff. First time he broke some family pictures, another he broke a radio and another a back scratch stick. Mom never does this. Though other people say it's a good thing my dad does it with things, and not actually hit my mom. He never hits her. only throw things or break them. All I want to know, does Dad have an anger problem? Usually after a few days or a week he cools down and things go back to normal. My mom always think of divorcing him because of this.

[Scarface]

Ever family has their ups and downs. Though it's a very good thing that your dad does not get physical however if these arguments happen on a consistent basis then maybe you could sit down with the both of them and explain how these arguments are affecting you. Y

It's normal to have disagreements and to sometimes take your anger out on certain objects and certain things, but having that talk with them and explaining why it hurts you and maybe try and sort out some of the issues together that way you all can live in a more civil environment.

If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here shoot me a VM/Pm anytime, I'm always here.

[steve1234]

I agree with Goose, some good advice there!

It sounds like your Dad has to work on his anger, but it doesn't sound too bad. Maybe thats just part of his personality.

You should count yourself lucky that your parents are still together. My parents split when I was like 5, and its just been me and my mum. I haven't had a father figure because of this (well, I see my dad for a couple of hours every month, but thats not the same). Some of my 'friends' say i not a proper 'man' (with some thinking im gay, when im not). :/
Anyway, my point is, every family has problems, some worse than others.

I hope things improve for you :)

[Kahn]

In reality it is better that he breaks objects rather than hit your mom. Abuse is never the way to go.

Although it is obviously better that he breaks things it seems he does have an anger issue. There is no reason to throw things because of a small argument with your spouse. Has he gone to counseling or anger management before? Has he had problems before him and your mom started arguing more regularly? If he was like this before (I.E Breaking things) you should've gotten him anger management. Maybe you should think about talking to him about it with your mother. That's what me and my grandfather did with my father. We sat down and spoke to him about it taking him to anger management and it worked. We got him medicine and for a few years he was like a normal father.

Or maybe it is just a matter of speaking with him. Sit down with him and talk to him how his arguments with your mother bother you and scare you. He may change because of that. They sound like good parents so they should be understanding.

[MyNameIsJack]

Hi jess, I think you should learn from this, become like an experienced person besides I'm sure you´ll never want to act like that in front of your family. I know its, Ive been through these before, but they got divorced.

[BlackBetty]

I'm very glad that he does not hit her.

Like Ronnie said, every family has there problems. Anything from what you're having for dinner to who bounced the checking account.

Have a talk with them, and tell them that you don't like seeing them argue like this, and you really care for both of them, and you hate when they do this.

If it would ever get worse, your dad needs to talk to a counselor.